Why we allow ourselves to be spanked!
This is a interesting question to ask yourself. It comes from a comment from Fred that he posted a few days ago.
FRED wrote: One thing I know already: because of this spanking and the others I've been given, we get over things and move on. Even if finances are tight, etc., we feel like we're working at it together. And I have the wonderful, powerful, assertive woman back that I fell in love with 25 years ago!
DWcMike:
I agree, it solves problems, and allows the couple to move on.
Also, spanking is my fetish, but as my spankings become more commonplace, the immediate sexual arousal is not quite as fast, and disappears very quickly. Fortunately, Lynn revives my arousal after most spankings.
MAYBE WHILE I AM AWAY, OTHERS MIGHT LIKE TO WRITE A RESPONSE ALSO.
How hard are your spankings:
Fred wrote about a specific problem:
This has caused Ann long term feelings of anger. She asked me how bad the spanking should be. I told her and she responded saying that she would spank me until two conditions were met:
1. That she felt that she had completely vented her anger and frustration.
2. My bottom looks bad enough.
She said she simply will not stop until she thinks my bottom looks like she has punished it to the equivalent of the depth of her feelings on the matter.
DWCMIKE: my spankings have become harder and longer, and Lynn is more readily willing to use spankng me as a problem solving method in our house. every spanking is stronger than when she first began, and I would say significantly stronger in the last few months. (or have I just been tenderized)
Have your spankings gotten harder and longer from when they began?
bottoms up
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12 comments:
Sara has increased not only the length of a spanking over the years but has also added to the variety of implments. I can often tell her real feelings by what she chooses to use on my bare behind.
Being spanked on a weekly basis with additional swats as needed has helped me be less selfish and always more aware of her needs and wants.
This year I agreed to one additional thing. No spanking will stop till she sees tears inmy eyes.
Taking me that far as helped me soften and become a better mate.
Mike,
I guess I allow myself to be spanked because like the DWC Effective videos states, "deep down there is a bad boy that wants to be spanked".
More importantly, growing up I always felt there were consequences for misbehavior — and ultimately my parents chose to spank. My parents — a majority of the time my mother — spanked me until I was about fifteen. As a boy in puberty, I used to get aroused over my parents and sometimes masturbated thinking about getting spanked. This is why I think the spanking subsided at fifteen.
As an adult and in marriage, I had the feeling that there were no consequences to rudeness, laziness and tardiness. I was an adult, I could do what I want seeing there were no consequences. If my wife and I argued, we would just be angry but the fight would ultimately blow over. But my actions or behavior never really improved.
After introducing spanking to my wife as an effctive way to limit my ill behavior, I finally felt complete again. Now my behavior has consequences that can find me over my wife's knee.
In addition, at work I manage a team of people. By the end of the work or over an extended period of time, I can bring this managerial — and sometimes bullish — behavior home with me. It is this kind of behavior that can also find the sting of paddle on my bottom. But at the same time, it sort of tension release from the job and brings my attitude back down to size.
At first I did allow my wife to spank me because it was a fetish of mine from my upbringing and it got me aroused. Almost a year later, I feel like they are becoming more punishment oriented and there is no turning back.
About a week ago I received a paddling with the "Old Reliable" on the seat of my briefs for interrupting my wife while she on a conference call with work. After she let me back up she told me to stand in the corner. She proceeded to spend five to ten minutes checking e-mail in our home-office with me in the corner about four feet away. For some reason, this got me incredibly aroused as I pitched a tent in my briefs with my khakis down around my ankles. After she logged off the computer, she mentioned that it okay to leave the corner. As I turned around and started to pull my trousers up, she noticed my erection stretching the front of my briefs.
"Well since you took your spanking well and kept your hands to yourself in the corner, I have a treat for you."
With that she proceeded to softly rub the front of my briefs until I relieved myself. At which point she calmly told me to "wash up" for dinner.
So with that in my mind, there are still times when I get excited about being spanked. I think that is why I utlimately approached my wife about the topic in the first place.
I felt like all fantasies were fully realized during that trip over my wife's knee. I am truly thankful I mustered up the courage to be upfront with her about this topic.
Feeling the sting again,
MATT (Married and Tantrum Trained)
PS, I received my two bare bottom spanking shortly after New Year's. Am I glad to being back to being allowed to receive smacks with my briefs on...
Well, the promised spanking has been delayed, due to scheduling issues at work and time to ourselves (without the children) at home.
The tension is getting pretty bad for me - the anticipation. So, although I'm prepared for what we have promised to each other should be the worst spanking Ann has evr given me, it will (almost) be a relief to have it over.
If I can sit at a computer after it happens I'll share the details.
Well, we were finally alone on Sunday and it happened. It was 2 long sessions about 20 minutes each. Ann used a hair brush, belt, paddle, and an evergreen switch on me.
After the first 5 minutes I was crying hard. True to her word she continued on anyway, switching implements so that my behind did not have a chance to get numb or used to one of the implements.
When the first 20 minutes or so were up she went downstairs and I fixed her a drink (I was allowed to pull up my shorts). I returned to our bedroom and waited. In about a half hour she returned and had me face the other direction over the bed and started again.
20 minutes later she stopped. I was sobbing and she knelt on the bed and held me as I cried it out. Then I stood up and she held me close and I felt loved. I thanked her and she said I was welcome and that she loved me very much.
I wanted her to do it so that as work becomes very demanding and I concentrate on it I do not lose focus on my responsibilities at home or my connection there. I do not want her just accommodating me - my first responsibility is to my family!
So it is Wednseday. I still have sore, raised welts from the switch. My bottom is quite bruised. It still hurts to touch and to sit. And I never felt better or more loved.
We allow ourselves to be spanked because we are confident in who we are and what we need by the person we care about to help us be better at caring for them and being better men.
mr and Mrs. Widget
Hank and Sara: As in our relationship, Lynn is more willing to spank me longer and more effectively, and even enjoy doing it to solve a problem.
Matt: glad it works to keep your relationship on an even keel.
Fred: sounds like you reall ypaid for your transgressions. Glad to know all is well again.
Mr and mrs widget: good answer
mike
Hi Its dave here from England. Having a 35 year marriage certainly helps. Liz has been putting me over her knee now for over 25 years and it certainly helps our marriage along. I enjoy it as she always is dressed immaculately for ny beating. Being large bosomed she wears a low cut jumper to show a lot of cleavage my favourite red skirt with red shoes. Underneath are the seamed stockings and very lacy petticoats. She takes me into our bedroom and makes me strip to my underpants whilst sat in her chair with her slipper and cane on the bed in readiness. I love the scolding and the words like I am going to tan your bum black and blue. Then she hoists up her skirt and petticoats and beckons me over her nyloned knee. More scolding and then her hands slowly roll my pants down whilst she inspects my bum before the punisnment begins. However looking at her stocking tops and petticoats from below does keep my mind off the pain I am getting and after a few visits to stand in the corner and then back over the knee we caqn then indulge in our other favourite pastime !!!! It certainly keeps our love for one another alight
Jack, I need to be married to a woman who takes charge. I have that naughty little boy in me, also at times an attitude. I realized when I first started dating that during intercourse when I thought of spanking I got really hard and she noticed it. Afterwards being asked I would not give an answer to what I was think about. The woman I married is a few years older, take charge, what I was looking for. The spankings started because of my attitude. They are hard, get my attention, more than I thought a spanking would be, but I need to be spanked. I'm mostly spanked in the bedroom but always taken to face the wall in the kitchen or front room. I have the chance of being seen by anyone who visits and have been told I best not move, I did once and only once, the trip back to the bedroom could be heard loud and clear and then the return trip to face the wall.
I have been married for over 40 years now and I have always felt the need to be spanked like I was growing up by my mother.
About 10 years ago I finally got the nerve to ask wife to spank me and at first she thought I was nuts but we talked it over and I soon discovered that she was a natural.
We started with me asking for a spanking and her giving me one but within a year it changed to she decided when I needed a spanking and how often and how hard it would be.
Since then I spend every Sunday evening over her lap for a long and hard hairbrush spanking that is never done until well after real tears are flowing freely.
I can get additional spanking during the week if my behavior merits it which happens 2 or 3 times a month on average and those are usually longer and harder than my Sunday spankings.
I just wish I had asked her to spank me sooner.
SWH
Dave: sounds delightful, and many men envy your lifestyle.
Jack: Glad you have found the woman of your dreams, and sharing your adventures with us..
SWH: At least you finally did ask her, so that is a positive. My wish is that I had asked Cindy earlier also. Thanks for sharing. We moved also from my asking to be spanked, to Cindy deciding when she felt I needed a spanking, which is more often than I would have ever asked.
bottoms up
Red/Mike
Great wife---long happy marriage--but with an occasional paddling on my naked butt---I got it coming we both seem to know at the same time when a bare paddling has to settle things--no argument-- I am a good amn but sometimes not a thoughtful husband--For one example Without notice i took a camping trip with my male friends--lots of drinking etc---I came home to a very angry wife--no argument I just stripped down and took my paddling and it hurt bad but things were once again good between us Since I just shower quick before I get paddled I just get out of shower bend over and put my hands on bottom of bath tub and she paddles my naked butt and I am hurting real quick
anon: glad it works for both of you
REd/Mike
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