location

Thought I would do a small poll for today.The question is: Where in your house or apartment do you most frequently get spanked?

spanking location in your house

what room are you most frequently spanked in? our bedroom bathroom basement family (living) room kitchen a different room Current Results

PLEASE REALIZE SPANKLIT NO LONGER EXIST, BUT TYOU COULD WIRTE YOUR ANSWER WITH A COMMENT
My answer is the bedroom, but with the kitchen whenever on the spot occurs.

bottoms up
Mike

how did you approach your wife(partner) to spank you?

REDI occasionally get very personal letters like the following, and thought it was maybe time to share this topic with everyone again.
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Dear Mike,

I have frequented your website (and others like it) for some time now, and am working up the courage to talk to my own wife about a female led relationship. I was wondering how you spoke to your own wife when bringing up the subject for the first time.

Sincerely Yours

Joel (a name I have made up for this person)
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My Reply:
Hi Joel:

Please look backwards in my blog. More towards the beginning of the blog I have addressed somewhat this issue.. This way you will see our evolution...

Give me more info on your situation, PRIVATELY, before I would ever consider recommending, and if this is your regular email account, then please setup one solely for adult rated content regarding spanking. Hope to hear back from you soon.

Mike
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Time for our readers to help, so I am not overwhelmed! Also, maybe if both partners read this blog, I might request the extra encouragement that only a spanker can give to a spankee. Please promise your partner a spanking, but temper your mood on how fast a reply is sent to this blog, with a copy to yourself.

This knee is waiting for you to bend over. Depending on how you answer the request above, it may be a happy woman who is administering the spanking. I have learned that it is always better to have a happy woman administer the spanking.
If you have previously described how you approached your partner on the spanking issue, could you look back and see what date of the posting or the comment that explained how you were able to broach the topic, and eventually convince your partner of your need to be spanked, and the benefits that would be derived by both of you in your relationship.
By your remembering about when you discussed it on this blog, you should be able to find it easier than I can. I can then build a short posting of relevant dates for those who have previously posted. Thanks.the knee is still there, but the woman is looking a little more perturbed with your not fulfilling her request quickly.
THUS:
If you have as yet not explained how spanking began in your present relationship, maybe you might post a comment explaining as much detail as you are comfortable with, without anything that would lead to your identity. If this blog has helped in any way, this is how it could be most useful.

Remeber, I am commissioning the spanker to be certain to follow through if you do not post.
thanks to all who take the time to organize this for the greater community benefit.... May you be soundly spanked as your reward...
bottoms up
RED

The Perpetual Question

A reader wrote this to me privately recently:

Hi Mike: I'm a regular reader of your blog, but I haven't yet disclosed my level of interest to my wife. Thought about it for a long time, but still waiting for the right time. Nevertheless, I'm sure I'm one of many that consider you somewhat of a legend in the F/M spanking scene, and consequently, I want to ask you for your opinion. If you don't find time to respond, it is Ok because I'm sure you receive many similar questions. I'm on a conference call the other day, while working from home, and I hear a little "ahh" from the next room. I listened for a couple of seconds, and realized the vacuuming continued to happen, banging against the wall. So, I knew that whatever happened was not some injury requiring my attention. However, later my wife walked by asking if I heard her make a noise. When I answered yes, she became very angry with me because I did not come running. Two days have passed, and she is still mad at me. She is feeling unimportant and hurt because I did not come to her rescue to make sure she was OK. I'm annoyed at her, because this "needing to be rescued and coddled" has happened numerous times now. While I think it is silly and immature, I find my spanking side wondering if this is a chance to suggest that future situations where she feels I have let her down, be met with spankings. On one hand, I think the notion of always being the victim and making me out to be the bad guy that isn't there for her is ludicrous, but on the other hand, I wonder if I should just suck it up and try and make something positive out of it.

This is where I wonder if you have some advice. You use spankings to solve problems, but do you use them to solve problems of this sort where you might think that you are right and she is wrong? Its funny, but I feel that regardless of who is right and who is wrong, if a spanking is involved, maybe I won't care so much.

Anyway, great blog, and if you have any advice, it is much appreciated.

Thanks, MC.

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Well MC, maybe it is time to re-visit this topic, briefly.

I have no idea of how long you are married, how liberated or rigid your relationship is, and what other factors exist in your lives. All of these might change the answer.

Recommendation One: purchase the "Please spank me" booklet from the http://www.auntkaysdwc.com/   IT will give you a little more confidence, before discussing with your wife.

Recommendation Two: Make certain that there are no problems to speak about for a while, so that the harmonious nature of your marriage is in a good phase. Every relationship has ups and downs, so don't broach the topic when other difficulties are present. Be open and honest with your wife, and bring the elephant out of the closet, and talk about your desires. Go slowly, and give her lots of time to think about it.

Recommendation Three: If she does not categorically dismiss the idea as childish and totally crazy, ask if she wold like to look at the DWC website. Remember to keep stressing that you do NOT want to be treated as a child, that she is NOT replacing your mother, but simply your partner, who may use spankings to create a more harmonious situation whenever she feels it is necessary. It allows her to be in charge, and when upset, have a way to deal with your transgressions.

Recommendation Four: When reading the DWC website, state that much of what is written is excellent, whereas other parts are "too over the top". Give her the power to decide how she might like to start implementing spanking in your relationship. I would also STRONGLY recommend buying the lifestyle kit.

Almost Lastly: Whether you think it trivial or serious, if she thinks you should be spanked for something she thinks is important, you must give up the right to say no! But the lifestyle kit, gives a well thought out plan of how to initiate spakings in your relationship...

Lastly: please start at my blog at the beginning, and skim to find out how spanking has developed between Lynn and I.

DEFINITELY MY LAST THOUGHT FOR NOW!! Nothing you read on this blog, or the DWC website will fit your exact situation. Also, some of what you read may be too extreme, whereas some which you read may be too mild! I find some of the people that wrote in Real People, or who signed the guest book at the Dwc website to be too extreme for our view of DWC. We also do not agree with any drawing of blood. Your partner may not by nature wish to cause pain. The idea of a dwc relationship is something that grows over time, as the improvements in your living together in love blossoms even fuller with spankings.

good luck

bottoms up

RED

A WICKED SPANKING TOOL

Well, I finally ordered a while ago an implement from Aunt Kay, that I felt I would truly dread. For readers that remember Lynn and my visit to Aunt Kay of the DWC, one of the implements she used on my bottom was "the Punisher". It was a heavy, thick leather strap, while being quite thin in width. Simply a couple of strokes and my knees were buckling.

Lynn sometimes uses the cane, but does not swing it with conviction. I know that this is a dangerous statement to make, as Lynn reads this blog. Lynn uses the bath brush with definite conviction and force, and I believe enjoys seeing the effects it causes, both on my reddening bottom, my verbal reactions, and my feet dancing in the air.

As always, a spanking has a purpose, and it should be effective, and remembered.

One additional fact is that when Laurie and James visited us, Lynn borrowed and used each of their straps extremely effectively. Nearly every stroke resulted with my knees buckling from the force and intensity of the spank. Laurie complimented Lynn on how effectively she spanks her man, and that she is an accomplished disciplinarian. A very nice comment, from an experienced Lady.

Thus, I decided to order this strap from Aunt Kay, and Lynn agreed.

A picture of the strap!!!!
The description from the Disciplinarywivesclub website:
Due to requests for an implement that was ‘strap-like’ but had more impact, the DWC is introducing the MagnaStrap. It is easy to handle and has a dramatic impact. The MagnaStrap should bring immediate behavior improvement.
MagnaStrap is 17 awesome inches long. The easy-grip rounded handle is 6” long and the rubber strap is 11” long, 1” wide, and 3/8” thick. It is made with very high quality materials and workmanship. You’ll love how easy it is to use and it will soon become a favorite.
$71.00 plus shipping
My opinion: now that Lynn has used the strap. It is ferocious.

Lynn decided I needed to be spanked, even though I had been spanked severely just three days before regarding her weight loss scheme. It was decided to use the new strap.

On the first stroke, my knees buckled, from the chastising effect of the strap. Each spank was delivered with seeming ease on Lynn's part, with devastating effects on my bottom. I cannot explain the feeling, but probably will be able to do better after this magnastrap has been used another time on my bottom.

The strap is easy to hold, and seems to just attack your bottom in a easy swinging motion. I was able to sort of see it coming the first time, and it did not seem to be intimidating. From the moment it lands, the shock is immense, and the intimidation is acute. MY knees involuntarily buckled, and I have absolutely no recollection if I responded verbally. Lynn paused, until I straightened my knees and legs, and again the strap made it's movement towards my bottom. Again it landed, and the intensity simply overwhelmed me, causing my knees to buckle.

By the fifth stroke, I was extremely slow in being able to stand, from the numbing pain of the spanks. Lynn then, or a spank or two later, stated let's have four more, and please count them out loud. Those four spanks are the hardest I have ever endured, and much more than any of the straps that Laurie had.

When allowed to rise, I thanked Lynn, and was allowed to feel and look at my bottom. I was amazed that Lynn had only used the strap on a small area of my bottom, which was fiercely red,
and that the top part of my bottom was untouched. I felt that my whole bottom was aflame.

We hugged, and caressed, but Lynn decided a few minutes later to use the small hair brush and redden the top part of my bottom, to match the lower portion. When Lynn finished, I was most truly spanked.

We then hugged, and kissed again, all was forgiven, and we made love. My bottom has been red for two days, and only today has the redness mostly disappeared.

Lynn has finally found an implement that clearly spanks severely, with little effort on her part, and maximum effect on my bottom and me. I hope that she does not feel she needs to use this implement any time soon. (Soon being in the next year or more).

If Lynn wants to cover my entire bottom, then she will probably simply have me standing upright, so a little padding exists everywhere, and maximum spanking surface is available.

I wholeheartedly recommend this magnastrap for any woman who wants to deliver an extremely painful spanking that will be remembered for a considerable time by her partner. I already regret havng purchased it, knowing that it awaits my bottom whenever LYnn feels it is appropriate. [Aside to Janeen: it is far worse than the bottoms out position you prefer with a bathbrush, when wanting a strong spanking!]

Aunt Kay might soon be dong a roaring business, and the men that are on the receiving end will feel a roaring fire on their bottom, and possibly be roaring with noises as it is applied.

The easiest link to this strap... click here. then scroll downwards as it is on the front page of the site after you have hit enter.

ADDED THOUGHT: IF YOU DO ORDER THIS, ADD A SHORT NOTE SAYING DWCMIKE SENT YOU! (A space is provided for any extra comments!) Lastly, it comes in an extremely well sealed package,[ inside is cardboard, then heavy brown paper to wrap it, with heavy clear tape] and with the label for customs stating rubber kitchen implement. In no way would this ever open, without prolonged use of scissors. The return address is dwc, and a post office box number. It is sent by airmail.

PLEASE NOTE: I AM RE-POSTING WITHOUT EDITTING FORMER POSTS. THIS IMPLEMENT WE THREW AWAY,AS IT WAS TOO FIERCE! PERIOD.


bottoms up
mike

our little secret

Posted by: "msspnker" msspnker@yahoo.com msspnker

Tue Jun 19, 2007 11:18 am (PST)

Displaying spanking brushes

My wife displays an large oval bath brush in her bathroom. Also, she
has hanging in my bathroom a large round bath brush. Guests often
comment "that's a nice brush you have not knowing what they are
really for." Becky is becoming bolder with her public display of her
disciplinarian role.

I think one day soon she is going to reveal to my mother or sister
either in a joking manner or in a matter of fact way that she spanks
me. Although my mother has joked that she should do so...

We have agreed for the most part that our spanking lifestyle will be
our little secret. However, it is agreed to intensify my discipline
she can reveal our little secret in public when she sees fit. Meaning
either by telling someone or disciplining me in front of them.

When that happens she will reveal two secrets at once. The second
being my punishment attire. Embarrassment in the right measurement is
an important part of our spanking ritual.

Our spanking relationship is unique. She enjoys the
control,embarrassment factor, my squirming/whining, and fact she

feels better after administering her stinging kisses.

I embarrass easily and don't like the pain. However, the shame and
embarrassment of submiting to a spanking makes me feel better having
endured and served my pennance so to speak. It's the conflicting
emotions and sensations that is the stimulus.

For me it's the mental aspect and my inner child coming out is most
important and for her it's the physical act of making her feelings
felt, the control, and power she weilds over me with just the hint of
a spanking.

I don't relish the idea of her spanking me in front of someone. But eventually I think it's a natural evolution of our spanking lifestyle. It would fullfill her desire to display her control and
signal she will take action anytime/anywhere. It stimulates the need for me to humble myself to her in public. The key is not to over use the public factor. We think it's better as an implied threat but not
knowing when she will reveal our secret is exciting.

Just a post to intertwine with other messages and to maybe spark more conversations.

A cartoon for ronnie

Enjoy life
Red

mattenklopper for everyone

Doubt you would ever want to enter a home like this, knowing that you have misbehaved and live here
bottoms up
Red

A Present from Danielle and John: A Mattenklopper

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spanked hubby the original

Sometimes our bottoms listen better than out ears.....

This is a wonderful drawing, clearly a woman unmoved by her husbands reactions to being spanked.
bottoms up
Mike