Monday, July 31, 2017

husband tamer

The best spankings to receive, are when they are least expected. No time exists to prepare yourself, simply to bare yourself.

Lynn surprised me yesterday morning by stating we have something to talk about. She immediately sat on the bed, and requested me to get the husband tamer paddle.

We have never really used this paddle, so my wife asking me to retrieve it by name meant she had not only decided to spank me, but she had already planned how she was going to make her ideas known to me.

The pictures show that this is an effective spanking implement, which I was to have my first real taste of since purchasing it.

How did we come to purchase it: This I will save for a later post

The spanking was for a bottom still sore from the Saturday night bottom out bath brushing. Bare bottom, over the knees, no warmup, just correction. The sin: we had agreed on one Scotch and ice before dinner, and one wine bottle for dinner. At the table with the other couple, I asked if we should open a second bottle of wine when the first was finished. It was agreed not to, but at that point the die was cast. Lynn impressed upon my bottom that it was demeaning to discuss another bottle, that we had already agreed on the amount as considerate hosts for the other couple that would drive home later. Even though the answer was no more wine, I should never have asked. We also had one Drambuie with ice after dinner while looking at digital photos of our last vacation together.

The spanking was different, a totally different feel, catching both cheeks at the same time, and more stingy than the bath brush. Equally effective as many spanks rained down on my bottom.

Lynn had thought out this spanking, because when it stopped, she stated that it was my turn to please her. We cuddled, then proceeded to my slowly kissing all over her body. She eventually straddled my face, and I, while lying on my back, greedily licked and sucked her cunt, while fondling her ass and breasts. With a finger inside her pussy, and the other hand fondling her nipples, she had a very guttural and loud climax. When the throes of orgasm subsided, she lowered herself downwards lying on top of me, and guiding my prick into her cunt. We fucked and kissed, while she ground her vagina into me. My butt was sore, and this action increased the effect, and the orgasm that soon followed was tremendous....

Spankings followed by sex are fantastic. Problems are solved, and the makeup sex is fantastic.

Unfortunately, due to another fault one hour later, I was quickly bared and bent over, receiving ten quick strong spanks with the bath brush. that problem was then put behind us also. How significant was that problem? At the time of this writing, I cannot remember what it was for, but the problem was dealt with, and the remainder of the day was a continuance of our love affair.

bottoms up

Sunday, July 30, 2017

purchasing the husband tamer

I was browsing a beach shop in L.A. with my wife, and I saw a variety of paddles with titles of this nature. Other titles include wife tamer, and 'for the cute little dear(deer) with the bare(bear) behind', and similar appropriate sayings.

I quietly showed it to my wife, and after leaving the store, I asked if she would go back and buy it. She could pass it off as a joke present for her husband. She responded that if I wanted the paddle, I should go and buy it. I did go back and buy it, but it was very embarrassing as one older saleslady showed it to the other sales lady nearby, and they both chuckled. I made a lame comment about it being a funny present for a friend, and they nodded and stated 'sure'. Lynn and I had been the only ones in the store a little while earlier, and I had come back about 30 minutes later to purchase only this item. My explanation was obviously untrue. [I paid cash, I would not want them to know my name with a credit card]

Have you ever purchased one of these type paddles in obviously not a adult themed store? What did you say when purchasing it? Does my experience encourage you to buy one? If ever I did buy another, I would quite openly state that it helps solve marital problems sometimes, and we don't seem to have one with us on this vacation. I might even do this just for the reaction of the sales woman.

Previously, I have purchased a few paddles, but have come to know the sales people, and kink is their main raison d'etre. All other spanking instruments have been bought through the mail.

bottoms up

Saturday, July 29, 2017

Grouchiness methodically spanked away, love making just as thorough

Monday, Oct 24

Last night(saturday), all grumpiness was completely spanked out of my mind and body.

Lynn put on a sexy one piece black leather outfit, that narrows into a thong. She looked fantastic, and actually agreed for me to take a few pictures of her holding the bath brush.

Although we took the pictures in the bedroom, we walked downstairs to the main floor for the spanking. We used the front room adjacent to the front door, and I am beginning to worry that the length of the spanking, the sound of the spanks, my howls, and the lecture occurring during the spanking could actually easily be heard if anyone came to the front door. Do I really want the neighbors to know our secrets? [definitely not]

Lynn's back is almost better, but to protect any strain caused by having me over her lap, I was once again positioned kneeling on the couch, with my bottom positioned outward to meet the bath brush.

Lynn agreed with my suggestion to take a before and after photo, which if edited a little, I might post.

The spanking was the hardest I have ever received. [My spankings when I was a young boy always brought tears, but they were nowhere as strong or as many as the present. When you are a young boy, the baring of your bottom and the spanks overwhelm you easily] {Aside again: we have never spanked our children, and do not advocate spanking children - our youngest is now in his 20's}

The spanks just seemed to keep coming, and at times owwwwwsss escaped from my throat. [I know I need to be less stoic when spanked, and I will have to work on that.] The spanking alternated from cheek to cheek, the fire in my bottom blazed, and as my owwwwws increased the spanks lessened a little for three or four spanks, but then picked up strength again. {almost like these hurricanes going over land, but then reviving themself over water.}

One would think that Lynn standing to one side, and swinging the bath brush would be sufficient, but at one point she stopped, maybe after forty spanks. Lynn stated that she was not finished. I was not to move. She was taking a short rest. The fire really came out in my bottom during that rest, which only consumed maybe forty five seconds, and then the spanking resumed with vigor. This renewed assault really started my owwwws and ouchss. The spanking included a flurry for a finish, and then a few more even stronger wallops while being informed that if I had not lost my grumpiness with this spanking, then I would be spanked again that evening, even if it took another two separate spankings, of greater intensity, to accomplish the task.

My wife took two after photos, and then we retreated to the bedroom. Their we first cuddled, necked, and progressed to my kissing and nibbling on her breasts, before moving to her vagina. I thoroughly enjoy licking and sucking her entire pussy, but then she demanded time to suck and lick my prick. I eventually returned to her vagina, where with one finger inside and my mouth and tongue working feverishly, she had a terrific orgasm. When it subsided, she rolled over on her stomach, and I entered her from behind. She closed her legs, and with my legs straddling her, we fucked blissfully while I nibbled on her neck, until I had an enormous climax.

Four hours later, when going to bed, Lynn remarked on how red my bottom still was. When we awoke the next morning, their was still a significant blush over my entire bottom. Their still remains one red streak on the far side of my right bottom at the present writing, because with her standing on my left, this portion received the strongest strokes. [ physics- the bath brush travelled the farthest distance, achieving the greatest speed before impact.]

When we once again cuddled after making love, all grumpiness had truly disappeared, and has not in the slightest reappeared since then.

Significantly, the bath rush now remains on her dresser in our bedroom. We do not have guests visiting our bedroom, but the brush has obviously never been used in a bath, so it's purpose on her dresser does beg the question as to why it is there?

Lastly, I hope Will allows Janeen the pleasure of a thorough bath brushing in this position, especially since she has suggested the position to me. It is truly memorable. I am sitting typing this on Monday, and easily still feel the sore bottom.

bottoms up, or in this case bottoms out

Friday, July 28, 2017

still grumpy after all these years

I have been grumpy for the last couple of days. Maybe it is the weather, the October rain, working too much, or who knows what. I have been going to bed earlier, and my wife has stayed up later, so maybe it is the lack of sex, or even the lack of cuddling that I have been missing.

My wife gave me a quick spanking with the bath brush this morning, but a person was coming to our house shortly to do some work, so the spanking was short. It did not relieve the mood.

The probable outcome is a much more vigorous spanking tonight, which hopefully will end my bad mood.

Do spankings work for other people when in a funk. I wonder! Let me know what methods you use to get out of the blahs!!!!!!! ^~^

bottoms up

Three spankings in 14 hours

Fatigue and the resulting grouchiness has been the cause of my latest spankings. I had worked long hours on Thursday and Friday, but insisted on cooking on Saturday. I wanted to try my hand at making two batches of tomato sauce, which Lynn explained would be an all day event. I argued that it wouldn't. She offered to help, but was unhappy to be cooking the day before a short vacation. I countered that she should go out and let me do it. [I was expecting a stronger spanking, that day, for the previously described over-drinking on one night of vacation. no driving was involved, simply in the lakeside house. Maybe I was a little edgy. I was later to find out that she had mostly forgotten about this spanking. As Bonnie has mused, spankings delayed are spankings denied.]

The cooking went well, but did take a very long time, that is , most of the day. Because I started only in the afternoon, the kitchen was still a mess when my wife came home, and we had more to do with the sauce after dinner. Fatigue led to disagreement, my still denying that it took most of a day to cook this sauce, and an argument about my not cleaning the kitchen and counters properly after finishing the cooking. My wife's back was sore, she had spent most of the afternoon out wonderign around stores, and was tired.

You guessed the result. My wife stated I should accompany her upstairs.

Aside: Wintermute and other sites have suggested that plastic hairbrushes or other spanking plastic (lexan)implements create a strong surface sting, without the dulling effect of wood. In a previous discussion with my wife, I had mentioned that when we first started spankings, she had used a plastic hairbrush that stung like hell, and was very unpleasant. We had moved onto a wood hairbrush from then on. My wife at that time was spanking me to please me, because this was what I wanted. We had not bought into the DWC philosophy, which we are maybe 50% into at the moment. My wife had purchased a small plastic hairbrush today at my urgings.

Spanking number one:

The spanking was OTK, and started with the plastic hairbrush, but her heart was not in the spanking. She quickly switched to the bath brush, but stopped quickly because of my position placing a strain on her back. She briefly lectured about the cooking, the cleanup, the need for a maintenance spanking.

We have rarely used the cane. I suggested she shuld use it for my drinking, but that she should first practice a little. I tried holding a cushion at the height where my bottom would be, but her swats were very erratic. amd could land anywhere. It was decided that I lie on the bed on top of pillows to elevate my bottom. Six quick lightly flicked cane strokes later,and the spanking was over.

I thanked Lynn for the spanking, and the evening continued, without any enthusiasm. The spanking had really not solved the problem, it had mostly been going through the motions. I had asked for the plastic hairbrush, My wife had a sore back, I had asked for the cane, I was directing. This was not a real spanking.

Bedtime spanking:

We lay in bed, and both were still grumpy. [or was it just me?] After cuddling, and laying awake for a while, I asked my wife if she could please spank me. I explained that the previous spanking had not relieved the grumpiness, and stress that I had. She had me retrieve the bath brush, and twenty quick swift spanks followed. These I certainly felt, and I thanked her for the spanking. We then cuddled and went to sleep, one of the extremely rare occurences where a spanking had not been followed up by sex.

The next morning: (Janeen's method)
My wife's back was sore and stiff, and we slowly did everything needed to go away for three days in Seattle. My wife stated that I still seemed grumpy. She believed the spankings had not seemed to work, but stated her back was too sore to take me over her knee. I suggested that the spankings had maybe been too tame, even though I had been spanked twice in three hours the night before. I suggested that I could kneel on the couch, lean forward and stick my bottom out, and she could stand beside the couch and use the bath brush, where she would just have to swing her arm. This was a big mistake. The twenty plus spanks I received were the hardest my wife has ever given me. The spanks were slowly given, with a few seconds between each spank. Occasionally the brush was just rested against my bottom, then brought slowly backwards, until once again moving forward and hitting my bottom. The spanks were agony from the outset. Each one made me regret my foolish mood, and reminded me that my bottom had been tenderized the previous evening. The spanks were all contcentrated in the lower part of my bottom, due to my bent position.

My wife asked if I was getting in a better mood, which I readily and heartedly agreed with. This, however, did not stop the spanks from continuing.

When the spanks finally ended, with a flourish of 4 harder quick spanks, I truly felt that I had been punished.

We left shortly thereafter, and I sat on a very red bottom for the rest of the day. This spanking occured at about 11:00am, but that night before bed my bottom was still a very bright red. We made love passionately that night, all stress and grumpiness removed from my mind and my behaviour.

A shower the next morning brought the bright red color back to my bottom.

I have to thank (?)Janeen for stating that this is her favorite position. I now know the punishment capability when your bottom is so exposed. However, my wife also knows that if she really wants to make a impression, this position will be useful. Also, she has learned that my bottom can take a lot more punishment than she has previously applied, and that no ill effects have occurred. Thus, for better or worse, spankings may have become more meaningful in our life.

bottoms up

Wednesday, July 26, 2017

spanking contract - for punishment spankings

We originally tried creating a spanking contract about three years ago, but it was a little too overwhelming at the outset. At that time, we were not able to understand how the spankings would modify my behaviour, nor really assess the effect of spankings in solving specific situations. If I liked to be spanked, how could a spanking for misbehaviour be a deterrent, instead of a reward.

My first suggestion is that you read the information on the Spencer spanking plan, that can be found at the following website, mostly because it is free.

I will quote only a little from this document, and change where appropriate he for she, because the plan mostly revolves around the male spanking the female, while our situation is the exact opposite.

"The thing to do is this:

Establish causes that will produce the discipline.

Agree upon the matter thoroughly. Don't leave the thing to the whim of the moment. Let your husband know what he will be spanked for, so he can watch his step and strive to avoid the discipline if he can. This is only fair."

However, the best contract for a DWC relationship can be ordered from the DWC website [a link is in the right hand column of this blog] by ordering the lifestyle kit for $20. I recommend it to everyone. If you are in the male spanks female situation, you could still purchase it but always reverse the roles. The concept is identical. Purchasing from them helps them to maintain the site, which I truly appreciate.

The main idea of the contract is to use punishment spankings for one specific event until it has been satisfactorily corrected over a period of time. The man and woman each list three items they want to improve for the relationship to flourish. A weighting scheme is used to determine which one of the six ideas is to be concentrated on. The scheme makes sense, but you will have to buy the lifestyle kit for the explanation. I feel it would be wrong to give this information out, and if I ever met Aunt Kay, she would deservedly want to spank me for this behaviour.

The goal is to be successful, thus it is not necessarily the most important of the six that is first addressed.

What the point system used has chosen for us will be very easy, but needed addressing.
We have been traveling extensively, but when at home, we would stay at home almost every evening, not getting out and enjoying the wonderful city of Vancouver. Basically, I was the person saying no, and just sitting bored in front of the television many nights.

I must initiate an evening out, once a week, every week for a month. If at the end of the week we have not gone out, then I will receive a punishment spanking immediately.

My goal, honestly, is to avoid any punishment spanking. Punishment spankings are much more severe. I would much rather look forward to a play spanking. I immediately suggested a movie, and we went on Thursday night. [ "Where the Truth Lies'. We loved the movie, including the sexual content in the movie.] We both had fun. I just have to get off my buns, or they will be roasted at the end of the week.

The maintainence spankings I receive, are definitely strong, and these will still be given probably bi-weekly. Warning spankings, and when necessary stress relief spankings will still be given, as will both types of on the spot spankings. Thus, avoiding punishment spankings shows my committment to making our relationship and love more endearing everyday of our life.

If our DWC relationship is to keep working, I must be striving to eliminate behaviour that needs a spanking. Going out once a week will obviously be increased to twice a week after a month, but if this works correctly, another item will be determined as more important next month.

Plus, by listing the six most important ideas to work on, I have a head start on curbing these other behaviours before the next month, thus making it easier to succeed when the time comes to address them..

I include the Spencer contract for you to see, but the Dwc contract has a bettter method of describing the behaviour, monitoring the behaviour, and as stated before, deciding the behaviour to be worked on.

Date ______________________ 20___

I, . ____________________________ husband of _________________________.

do hereby acknowledge that I have read the Spencer Spanking Plan and approve of the doctrines it advocates. From this date on it is my wish to have my conduct regulated by the enforcement of these doctrines. I give to my wife, therefore, the full right and permission to spank me whenever she feels such discipline would prove helpful and be in accordance with the spirit of the Spencer Plan. This Agreement has been entered into willingly--and for no other purpose than to improve my disposition and secure the general benefit that always comes from the enforcement of intelligent discipline. I understand that I will be spanked without fail if I break my promise to refrain from:

(List the situation which has been agreed upon for immediate atttention.)

I promise to cooperate with my wife faithfully. I will get ready for the punishment promptly when asked to do so and I will bear her absolutely no ill-will for so disciplining me.

I promise further to ASK for spankings when I feel I need them. I realize that Request Punishment plays a highly important part in the Spencer Plan, and I will report and ask for the discipline when I feel need or deserve it.


X _________________________________ (husband)

X _________________________________ (wife)

Do you have a discipline contract? Would you like to have one?

PS: We wlll be out of town for three days, going to the Buffalo Bills game, then staying in Buffalo for two nights, doing some shopping, and maybe catching a play at the Shaw Festival. No new posts until at least Wednesday, and my buns are safe for another week.

until next time


bottoms up

Monday, July 24, 2017

How spankings have improved our lives

Let me start by restating that I am a spanko, meaning that I find the idea of spanking to be very erotic. Reading about other real life situations have a very erotic effect on me.(I get a hard-on]) I believe it is similar for women who love spanking, in that it makes them moist, if not wet.

However, the actual time I am over my wife's knees [otk], and she is applying the hairbrush or bath brush, or using one of the other implements that I have shown, are not as enjoyable. Spankings hurt, they leave marks, but they are therapeutic. While being spanked, I have never stated please keep spanking, however, I have never had to plead to my wife to please stop. We did have a safe word, which means stop immediately if I state the word, but we have never used it. We no longer have a safe word, because if a reason exists for me to be spanked, then I should not be allowed to control how long I am spanked, it's intensity, or when it should stop. Those decisions are for my wife to make. [Also, my wife kept forgetting what the word was when we were talking about spankings]

My wife has always slowed her spankings somewhat when she has seen them being effective, with a desire of not hurting me. However, the nature of a spanking is to cause discomfort and pain. We, almost after every formal spanking, make love. If it is a on the spot swatting in the kitchen, then it is a minute problem solver and let's get back on with life. Thus, spanking and sex are intertwined in my mind, and fortunately, in my wife's mind.

My wife has never spanked me to tears, but that time will come I imagine in due course. If the situation merits it, and my wife makes that decision, then I readily accept my fate.


1. Lack of arguments.

We have not had an argument that has lasted more than five minutes in the last two years, and please realize that we both retired together two years ago, and thus are in a 24 / 7 living arrangement. [we do have some singular activities.] we travel together constantly also. Previous to spankings, we would have occasional arguments and not really talk or connect for a few days or more, as we nursed the grudge. Now the only nursing is me sitting gingerly in the evening. The last two arguments that I rememeber lasted less than five minutes, when my wife sized up the situation, and stated that we will solve this when we get home. I immediately knew from the tone that I would be spanked. I tried to back away from the argument, stating well maybe it is not such a big thing anyway, but she responded that I should have thought of that five minutes ago. One spanking was in the motel room when we got back to the motel.

2. Spankings solve my grouchiness:

Being not an absolutely perfect individual, I sometimes let the cares of the world get me down, and become grouchy. My wife has discovered that she can spank this away for me. While OTK, she reminds me of what a wonderful life we are having, how fortunate we are to have such great kids, also our great daughter-in-law, our health, and many other positive features. Note that each positive is connected to a number of spanks with the bathbrush. By the time the spanking is finished, I have regained my bright and positive mood that is normal, and I am so thankful for a wife who is so caring as to spank my blues away. I only wish I had told of my spanking desires twenty five years ago.

3.I have become a better listener, and thus a better social talker also.

This has taken a few spankings, before I saw the light, shall we say. It was well illuminated by my bright bottom. This evolved from being on the phone for 20 minutes, but not being able to give a summary of what the person had said. [oh, we talked about this and that]. Boorishly, I would tell other people about us, or more specifically me, but not really take an interest in asking questions about what they were interested in talking about.
I now listen, and greatly enjoy hearing what other people are doing or thinking. If I drink too much,[not drunk, not fall down], I talk incessantly. This has been changed for the better, both in terms of drinking and in terms of socializing.

4. I am extremely more considerate of my wife's desires, be they small or big, and thus our LOVE has grown more than I thought was possible.

She was originally totally against spanking. [aside: we have never once touched our children with even a playful spank.] My wife has been willing to spank me, to PLEASE ME. I, in turn, have tried to do the little things in life that relieve alot of frustration, things that show you are being considerate for each other.
[examples: regularly emptying the dishwasher, putting dirty dishes in the dishwasher, hanging up clothes instead of tossing them on the bed, or the railing in the hallway, putting the seat back down on the toilet after raising it, picking up the bathmat after a shower, and many other little things, that add up to one great big amount of caring, by showing that I am considering her feelings when I do things]

5. Being more social
I was often reluctant to get together with people I didn't know, but after a couple of spankings addressing this issue, I have found that meeting new people is more fun, and we are now entertaining beyond the regular small group of friends. We are both having a lot more fun, which improves the relationship.

6. On the spot wooden stirrer solves minor irritants
This solves problems immediately. If I am perceived as nagging, or just bitching about something, especially while my wife is making a meal in the kitchen, the stirrer is used on a bare bottom, until the problem disappears. My wife was annoyed by my behaviour, she has relieved this stress, and I have had it brought to my attention that this discussion or behaviour has just ended.
No hostility, a very simple solution.
Question: Had I been right or wrong?
bonnie's website stated it well: it's better to take an undeserved spanking than to miss a deserved one.
The disagreement was trivial, be spanked, and get over it. Far better than nurturing an argument.

7. We are both extremely happy, and I believe wholeheartedly, that spankings have helped us reach this level of happiness. My wife is not entirely certain, but does believe that spankings have helped the everyday happiness level.

We are now ready to advance the relationship with a spanking contract, which I will describe in a later post.


until then
bottoms up

Sunday, July 23, 2017


SPANKING (as inspired by Bonnie on her blog. I recommend it to all as a good read, but the reverse of my situation!) The first four letters were my own creation, but the last four definitely had the help of a dictionary....

S: Sudden slippering, swotting, slapping, smacking, strapping spankings supercede sitting softly.

P: Planning, preparation, presentation, paddle punishes posterior!

A: Affectionately, appropriately agonizing, attitude adjustment applied!

N: No nagging necessary, numerous noooo's needed!

K: Kindred, knowledgeable, Kafkaesque kerfuffle, karma, kowtow, kneeling, KAPOW, kindles keelhauled keister!

I: Interpreted initial ill-mannered impudent impropriety; immediately incurs interrogation. Impress ideal! Improvise imminent illumination. Impel intense inbound incendiary implement. Insufferable IMPACT!!! Intention: ignite inevitable, indelible, inflamed infrastructure.

N: Nabbed, naughtily, nefariously, navel-gazing nubile nude nymphets. Necessitates narration, nail-biting, no negotiation. Next! No-brainer! No namby-pamby! Naked! Nestled! Nine nettles, nipping, nibbling napalming nether-regions.

G: Glimpse going-ons gamble. Gall! Glance. Goddess gleans germanely, glacially gage. Greeting. Gotcha! Glare, glower, grasp! Grimace! Grounding! Grovel! Guff. Guilty! Gulp! Gloom! GONER! Guidance: genuflect genuinely. Goal: give golden gusty going-over. Glorious great gifts, generate gradual grandiose glistening gluteus glow, groans, gasps, gabble!! Gratitude!


Saturday, July 22, 2017

spanking communication

Hi: (Oct 12, 2005)
Just a quick post. I am now trying to respond to each comment, besides deleting spam. I am slowly going back to all comments, as though they were just entered. This is the friendliest method of encouraging discussion about the dark side of spanking ---- that is--- the woman spanks the male.... A very difficult idea for some to consider...

Most important reason for haste, however, is that my wife stated she was going to give me the spanking caused by my drinking....but she had to go out to a friend's house... thus the spanking will occur when she gets back, or later this evening,,

As Bonnie states on her website : No spanking is worse than living with guilt. Hopefully I can lessen the drinking, which is not out of control, but just more than is necessary.

We may afterwards discuss having a spanking contract... More on this later

bottoms up

Friday, July 21, 2017

munch reminder

Before going to the previously mentioned munch, my wife followed through on her reminder of who loved me, who was my partner, and also my lover and best friend.

The bathbrush was used, in the familiar method of my being bare bottomed over her knee. The spanking was quick, but vigorously applied, leaving a lasting impression. I was reminded that my bottom was solely for my wife, but more than that all of me, and that I could look during the munch but not touch. Having received a maintenance spanking the previous day, this spanking made a real impression.

During the munch, I constantly felt the reminder spanking while I sat listening to the discussion.

When I returned home later that evening, we made passionate love.

Whether the spankings continue, or become less often, I am so very fortunate to have a wonderful, beautiful wife that I love immensely and entirely, and who loves me.


bottoms up

Thursday, July 20, 2017

the be careful spank in public

We have visitors for the next ten days, so spankings may be at a minimum, and my postings may be infrequent, except for musings.

The be careful spank in public:

It is thrilling when my wife and I have been out somewhere, and she has reacted to something with a swat to my behind. This happened a couple of months ago, before I was writing this blog, and we were both shocked by it. Fortunately(?), it was done in a place where we did not know anyone, and we think in such a way that nobody saw, but the fact that it was administered spontaneously shows our evolution. When I turned and stared, rather shocked, at my wife, only then did she realize what she had done. The spank had been an automatic reaction to an unwanted behaviour by me. My wife had administered the spank as a warning, without thinking of where we were. This demonstrates she is becoming much more comfortable with the idea of it being her right to discipline me when needed.

The progression from this spank has been the occasional pat on the bum when I kiss her before going out alone on messages, or officiating, or when she is going out somewhere. It is thrilling. The pats are a token of our love, and for me to be aware of what will happen if I do something really stupid to displease her.

until next time
bottoms up

Tuesday, July 18, 2017

The Disciplinary Wives Club method - our modified method

I have referred in previous posts to the Disciplinary wives club method of spanking as advocated by Aunt Kay at her website. I hope she will not mind my including some of her writings here, specifically so that I can let you know how my wife and I are progressing in this lifestyle.

I hope to be able to meet Aunt Kay in the next few years, and she may possibly spank me for posting this, but I truly believe she would be flattered by my including it in my blog, and interested in our progress. Aside: I would only permit Aunt Kay to spank me, with my wife's express permission.

For first time readers, please realize that I am the one who has initiated the concept of my being spanked by my wife, and I could easily prevent my wife from spanking me if I wanted.

In any situation, if one person states that the other person is about to be spanked for whatever reason or even no reason whatsoever, the spankee has to willing allow themself to be bent over the spankers knee, or bend over and lean on a table while having their bottom bared, or lowering their clothing themself first. If they do not willing acquiesce, no spanking would occur. If the spankee is physically attacked, and forced into a spanking, then that is abuse, and a situation for the police.

The METHOD: " quotations are used for words from the website"

Prelude A
"Once he is across your knee, give him a few moments to get used to the fact that he is about to be spanked. Begin by giving a couple of hard smacks, then stop."

My wife sometimes scolds for a short while before administering any spanks. The position I am in, being over her knee, with my bottom bared, focuses my attention on the points she wishes to make prior to being spanked. She begins with anywhere from two to five spanks. When she first used the infamous bathbrush, she was shocked by how quickly I reacted bouncing around on her knee. This was not a normal occurence by me,(I try to be stoic), but I was shocked how much it hurt immediately. Before that particular spanking was over, I was truly regretting both the reasons for the spanking, and my having bought the bathbrush for her.

"The initial sting will be quite a shock to his system. If you were to keep on, he would struggle so much out of reflex action it would be difficult, if not impossible, to hold him in place. This pause after the first few whacks will give him a chance to mentally gear himself for the ordeal to come."

I was definitely worried when those first five bathbrush spanks ended, and certainly, if she had done fifteen in a row, I would have been fighting to get off her lap. The pause and wait after five did allow me to regain some composure, and realize that the reason I was over her lap was to be spanked, and that a spanking's purpose was to be a very unpleasant event. [That is, hurt] Lastly, it was something I was just going to have to endure.

Prelude B
"Give him a few more hard smacks and pause again. He will have started to squirm, but the smacks will have been given before any serious movement takes place."

These spanks let you know that you are in for what might I call 'a proper spanking.' Your bottom is being warmed up. As much as I like the fantasy of spanking, at this point I am definitely not liking it. By the stopping, I know that none of these spanks currently being given actually count in the spanking I am about to receive. My wife usually adds a few words while spanking to once again focus my mind on the changes that this spanking is wanting to accomplish.

"His body will be very tense as he awaits the next round of spanks. Wait for him to relax, and tell him to do so. Then resume the spanking."

I know more spanks are coming, I just don't know when. I must admit that at times I am somewhat frozen, trying to actually shrink the target (my bottom}, by squeezing it tight. My wife sometimes just runs her hand over my bottom until I relax, before continuing the spanking.

Prelude C
"Lecture him quietly on why he is being spanked. Tell him if he weren't so bad and naughty you wouldn't have to spank his bottom so hard, that sort of talk. For the next series, give eight whacks."

We have not progressed to this stage as of yet. Almost always my spanking begin at this point, for an uncounted number of spanks.

the main event (actual spanking)
"Continue to spank in this manner until you think he can take the remainder of the spanking, which should be thirty to fifty spanks without stopping."

My spankings have increased in intensity over the last couple of months, and my wife is beginning to enjoy ending with a flourish. She pauses, states that their will be ten more spanks, and sometimes even states 'i want you to count them'. She then spanks with extra strength, and the last two or three are extremely forceful.

the desired results[part one]
"A spanking should be an event to remember. Don't worry about how red his bottom gets. The more color you put into it, the better you are doing."

All my spankings end with my bottom being extremely red. My wife has acclimitized herself to the idea that the redder the better, and that my bottom has recovered fine after a few minutes, or more recently, after an hour or two, and occasionally being still red the next day after simply sitting on a comfortable chair.

the desired results[part two]
"Don't pay any attention to his cries and pleas and promises. He will tell you anything to get you to stop."

We have progressed to my making sounds of pain, ouches, owwws and the likes. I have not yet pleaded with her to stop, but I readily agree to anything she states, and make promises that the behaviour will change appropriately.

To ensure the continuance of appeasing my spanking fetish, of improving our marriage and love for each other, and showing that I truly mean to improve, I really try to change the specific items that I am spanked for. I do admit that I am not perfect, and the occasional reminder spanking is needed for a specific item, but this is fortunately becomer infrequent.

the desired results[part three]
"Allow him to squirm within limits. If it gets out of hand, give him a smack or two on the back of his thighs."

My wife has progressed to spanks onthe back of the thighs, and although she does them lighter, they are very effective.

the desired results[part four]
"If you give a spanking the way it should be given, the results should still show a week later."

We have not progressed to this level, and personally I hope we never achieve this goal, but that will be for my wife to decide.

the desired results[part five]
"He should wince every time he tries to sit for days after."

A couple of spankings have still been felt for a couple of days, so we are progressing down this road.

the desired results[part six]
"When you are through spanking, or for that matter, giving any form of corporal punishment, be sure he thanks you for taking the trouble to correct him."

This is important. It shows my wife that I appreciate her monitoring our relationship, and taking proactive action to solve problems, or minor annoyances, before they grow into major fights.

the desired results[part seven]
"If you feel it is appropriate have him go to a corner for at least thirty minutes. If you wish, make him stand there with his bottom bared. Do not allow him to talk, move, or rub his buttocks while he is there.'

My corner time is before being spanked, and only once with a bare bottom to focus on what was about to occur. The last time was over twenty minutes, and I must admit that you have little to think about while standing in the corner, except the reasons you are there, the spanking that is about to occur, and how much you love your wife.

"Always remember the key traits of establishing a dominant disciplinary relationship. When handling discipline issues be firm but fair, strict, demanding, aloof and unyielding. Don't be afraid to degrade and humiliate, and above all, when that bare bottom is turned up side down across your knee waiting for the paddle or hairbrush, don't disappoint him. When you let him up, his eyes should be wet with tears, his knees should be quivering, and it should be obvious by looking at his bottom that he is displaying the marks left after a GOOD session."

My wife has never spanked me this hard. I do believe that we would benefit from this type of spanking. I have yet to be brought to tears, but I have the emotional bent to have tears in a very emotional scene of a movie, or if one of my children has been injured. One of the most recent spankings did have one tear in one eye, but I was embarrassed to say anything to my wife, and I do not think she saw it.
In the future, I do expect that this type of spanking may be given on occasions. My wife still does not want to hurt me too much while spanking me, but realizes the purpose of the spanking. She is adapting rather well (unfortunately) to a spanking having the result of my bottom being extremely red, my owwws and ouches being frequent throughout the spanking, and a rather thankful but contrite husband at the end of the spanking.

The spankings usually end with what could be described as great make-up sex, because all has been forgiven, and we are free to show our love for each other.

If you are in a spanking relationship, drop me a line and we might communicate some time.

until then

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stats counter

I have added a stats counter, having copied the idea from Kasey on her blog entitled "i'll beg". The idea is really easy, takes only fifteen minutes to install, only because I spent fourteen minutes reading all the data about it. I am amazed by how many people have visited the site.
If you are reading this, and feel inclined, you can leave a comment which I would be very interested to read. There is no way that I can search you out (nor would I want to), and obviously, for privacy, my name is not Mike.

all spankings posted, and my thoughts on them, are, however, very real....

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Who can please who the most

No news on the spanking front. We had a bit of a downer day on Thursday, and got out of the funk by Friday evening. Last night when I got home from officiating, i asked if my wife might like to go out for a beer. She agreed, and said she would be ready in ten minutes. When she appeared, she was wearing the most revealing black top that she has ever worn out of the house. Thus, the title of this post. The beer and pizza were good, the sex at home later that night was great, and any maintenance spanking dealing with my nagging her about wearing sexier clothes would await another opportunity.

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Friday, July 14, 2017

Bill Ward Archives

Bill Ward was a fabulous artist, who created drawings and accompanying stories.
He passed away at the age of 79, in 1998.
I always enjoyed his humor,besides the gorgeous women, and the spanking scenes.

When you look at your own age, and how fast life has gone, remember to keep enjoying every day that passes.Many of us grew up with his mainstream art, and reveled at his none mainstream art. Any google search on his name will bring up a multitude of sites.I should first advertise the family version site: Bill Ward's official web site, that is run by his son. His drawings could be found in many humor magazines, postcards, and many other publications.
One that shows many of his adult themed drawings can be found at Bill Ward archive gallery. in the adult themed drawings, he always had exaggerated women's figures, of the most voluptuous nature, and rather over endowed males. He would draw any type of scenario, if it could find an audience.Enjoy visiting for a first time one of these sites, or remembering with fond thoughts a previos era.

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Wednesday, July 12, 2017

nici returns

First, some vintage humor just for a Friday.Always remember that both men and women have bottoms, and thus both can and should be spanked at times. No one, whether male or female, is always perfect. However, in our house, it is mostly my bottom that is almost exclusively spanked! As everyone knows, spankings can be fun, not simply punishment.

And now, NICI
Just wanted to say hi & send a couple pics if you would like to use.
Hope everyone in Canada & the US is enjoying the recent holidays. I'm looking forward to applying a few fireworks to a naughty bottom this weekend!Cheers
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mattenklopper for every need

I thought everyone might like to see the following picture from a friends house.
Must certainly be an awful lot of carpets in that house.
I bet you even tread carefully ( :-) , just not to create too much dust in the house.