our dwc journey

A quick post to let you know the follow-up to my email to my wife. I made, which I thought to be a sarcastically humerous joke about something my wife did, and she did not see the humor. The result was my immediately being told to lower my jogging pants and underwear, and becasue we were in the bathroom where the bath brush is stored, a quick 8 hard strokes with the bath brush while I was bent over. These were given with strength, and I am lucky that it wasn't more, so soon after last night.

So sometimes the spanks are light, and sometimes without warning and without expectation I am bending over for a strong dose of the bath brush.

bottoms up
Red/ mike

Letter I sent to my wife

Dear ***:

thank you, lover, for the spanking, and the even more wonderful loving that we had last night.

I couldn't be a luckier person, that you love me so much, and are willing to spank me to satisfy my needs. Remember that hopefully some day they will satify your needs.

I am really sad that you would be afraid to ask me something, as you mentioned last night. It shows how dominating and unreasonable I have been for so many years. Whenever this fear springs up, if even for a second, and we are alone at home or on vacation, or out in the woods, or wherever you choose, then spank the hell out of me. I will love you for it, and it will make our life together even more fantastic.

Every spanking is appreciated, no matter how hard, and I am trying to use each one to better myself in your eyes.

One last point: If I am being successful, and you can't find any faults, then spank me significantly every second week if you like for all the years when I should have been showing my love towards you by this behaviour in our married life. If a fault does come up, then spank it away ASAP, so that I am aware, and can work on changing it.

And don't be afraid of me. By spanking me, I am giving you the power to be the decision maker. Please take this power. Example: you were uncertain if we could afford buying new cooking utensils, and afraid I might rant about it. I have tried not to rant at all anymore. Spank me for having dominated our spending so much that you are afraid to spend $30, but I have bought a collection of maybe 30 or 40 spanking magazines over many years that each cost 30 to 35 dollars. Spank me as soon as you have read this if you so like, or the next time you are afraid to spend money. The soup stirrer, the bath brush, or/and the cane make your point the quickest and most effectively.

I love you and will LOVE YOU FOREVER.
bottoms up
Red/Mike

spanking contract revisited, then spanked

We both agreed that for the last month and a half, the first contract had been fulfilled. It will stay in effect permanently in our life. The contract is to make lifelong changes, not slip back into unacceptable practices.

We have started a second contract that involves:
A)increasing our social life [must go out once a month for dinner or an event with new people, or have someone new over for dinner) I have always been reluctant, so this will change. Because it is a monthly endeavor, a second idea was added.
B) I must work out physically twice a week, of which one must be at a gym when we are in town for strength training. The more activity, the greater health, the better sex drive and sexual life, and a happier existence. This should be easy, because ski season is almost upon us. During my refereeing season(6 months), I am very active, but in the off-season I am less active.


Spanking:
Thanks to Janeen's suggestion, I proposed that I should be spanked to end the first contract. [Bonnie's poem had also been sent by me to my wife (giving Bonnie the credit), and she thought it was interesting.]

The mind twist that is needed:
IF I need to be spanked each week because the contract was not fulfilled, then the spanking does not effectively change behaviour.
The goal of a contract is to improve our relationship, without being spanked. If I succeed, I am rewarded by a spanking, but this is once in 6 weeks. Got it!


Spanking:
First the soup spoon was used on a bare bottom for a short warmup, and it really stings. [Ten swats]


Cornertime


Then out of the corner to lay over my wife's lap for a dose of the holy terror.


Romantic cuddling

kissing

nuzzling

mutual licking and sucking


But then a short strong visit by the bathbrush back over my wife's knees. She used the positioning shown on the dwc lifestlye handbook of trapping one of my legs with her leg, with me being balanced over only one leg, and held one hand of mine behind my back.

When we returned to making love, it was a wonderfully invigorating affair, with my wife orgasm being achieved by my tongue, and my orgasm within my wife while in the doggy position. Her beautiful bottom feels fantastic against my body.

There are definitely benefits for having a spanking contract.

I will not be posting for about ten days.

Until next time:
bottoms up
Mike

how spanking affects you sexually?

My recent ramblings have lead me to wonder the sexual effect of being spanked. This poll asks males how they react sexually when being informed that they are about to receive a spanking.

how does a spanking affect you sexually
if you are male, a full erection usually occurs	immediately when informed you are going to be spanked you become erect while standing in the corner when seeing your partner seated holding a spanking implement only when your partner begins to bare your bottom when you are told to bend over her lap while you are being spanked only after you have been spanked and are kissing romantically
	Current Results

This poll obviously begs for a followup question of how does a women giving a spanking to a male react sexually? Some thought will be needed in how to phrase the question, and list the responses. IT is easy to see a males reaction.

A second question:

Your woody

Do you lose your erection while being spanked? yes no Current Results

You could post a comment with your reply, as the sparklit quiz no longer works
bottoms up
Red /Mike

spanking sex talk

A very interesting development occurred while making love a few nights ago. No spanking had happened during the day, but that is not necessarily connected to making love, and having great sex. Sex immediately after a spanking, or later that evening is fantastic, but a spanking does not have to occur as a prelude to sex. Hopefully, you are in a similar situation.

During this slow leisurely entwining, we cuddled, kissed, embraced, and my wife slid down to suck, lick, fondle and stroke my cock. Before climaxing, I insisted on equal time, and proceeded to lick and kiss my way from her lips to her pussy. Slowly, and lovingly I licked, sucked and stroked her cunt, concentrating on her clit and eventually putting a finger inside her. She was very hot, but somehow felt after a number of minutes that she was not going to climax and that I should just come up and stick my cock in her and have some fun.

I opted to start talking a few words while licking her pussy. I briefly stated that she must enjoy(lick) the power (lick) of being able to (suck gently) order me to stand in the corner, between many licks and a little kissing and sucking of her clit. Sometimes(suck) even having me bare(lick) my bottom, with(multiple short kisses to the clit) my pants still half on, and my underwear just at my knees. Multiple gentle kisses, and some sucking, while fondling her breasts. She was now moaning softly, and definitely building to an orgasm. The power to put me over your knee whenever you want, and to spank (many quick licks along her entire vagina up to the clit, and a finger back inside working magic, followed by rapid flicking of he clit by the tip of my tongue) me as hard as she felt necessary, when my wife burst into orgasm moaning throatly and bouncing around the bed with my mouth staying with her sucking on her clit. Her orgasm was as fantastic for me, as it was for her. When she recovered a little, she then immediately started sucking and stroking my rampant cock, and licking the entire shaft from bottom to top, then stroking below my balls at the perineum, and I had a thrilling orgasm also, coming in her mouth,and her eagerly accepting my cum.

We now have a new feature of spanking sex talk which I can use to help take her to orgasm, just like her talking of spanking me brings me to orgasm without fail.

Your thoughts on the topic?

bottoms up
Mike

use of a safe word

I have joined the Ladies_Who_Enjoy_Spanking_Men@yahoogroups.com , am currently only reading posts, and one posting by Betty is worth repeating.

The posting:

"It has become something of a fad recently to not use safety words for
a variety of reasons, the bottom/sub doesn't want one, The Top/Domme
doesn't think they need one, or it is felt that they are not
appropriate in a disciplinary spanking.

No offense to anyone, but this is about the stupidest bleeding thing
I've ever heard. The reason for a safety word is just that, SAFETY.
No matter how good you are, or how long you've known your partner,
things can go wrong. Anything can happen from chest pains to a sudden
need to use the bathroom (I don't know what everyone else's tastes are
but I would rather stop the spanking than have a wet lap, thanks.)

Ladies, we spank our men because we LOVE them, and we should always
want them to be safe. Not using a safety word during play is the
equivalent of not using a car seat for your child. It is
unconscionable, and any Disciplinarian that does not insist on a
safety word does not deserve the wonderful gift of the trust placed in
her. "

A safety word means stop immediately. My wife and I have never needed to
use one. It appears that until this word is absolutely memorized, it should be repeated before each spanking, just for safety. The partner is in charge of the spanking, but the spanking is consenual, and there must be a way to have it stop if absolutely needed. The safe word allows the spankee to plead that the spanking be stopped, to promise the moon if the spanking will stop, to cry if needed (I have never been brought to tears except when young (age 7 to 12) but only the use of the safe word will stop the spanking before the spanker had wanted to stop. The safe word does not remove the concept that the spanker is monitoring the spankees condition, and ensuring that the spankee is safe. Their bottom may be on fire, but their physical health is fine, and their bottom will recover.

One other item worth considering is to never administer a disciplinary spanking while mad, angry, or upset at the person you are spanking. A more severe but carefully controlled punishment spanking should occur later when you are cool, calm, collected, and DETERMINED. Your partner will know that it is never a good sign when she says she needs some time to calm down before discussing and administering the punishment.
The poll no longer exists, but you might like to write your response.

safe word

Do you use a safe word when spanking your partner yes no Current Results

bottoms up

Red/ Mike

4 quick spanks

Anytime it is felt necessary, Lynn is willing to relieve minor frustration with a few spanks.
We were in the bathroom, and I had just finished a shower, and was drying off.[that is, totally naked] Thus, for some valid reason (however, I have already forgotten the reason) Lynn felt it was necessary to give a few reminder spanks. This time Lynn used the plastic hairbrush, which is mostly open with just individual bristles, such that the air rushes through it, and the only resistance to stopping it was my bottom. Partially bent over, Lynn delivered two strokes to each upper cheek, and the area turned bright red immediately. Lynn only connected with the top part of the hairbrush, thus all the force was contained to a very small area. She resisted the temptation to do more, because I had a doctor's appointment the next day, and she didn't want visible marks that would need explaining.

A spanking when needed (real a quick reminder, or just for play), or even when totally no reason exists, is a loving reminder of how much we care for each other.

bottoms up
Mike