Danielle and John: be careful what you email !!!

I have expressed openly to everyone that I have a fascination with spanking. IF not, I would not be writing this blog. Similarly, I believe each and everyone of you have both a fascination with spanking, and with possibly learning other ideas in the domestic spanking situation.

I requested from JohnB a little more information about a post of his, and that he could send it to me personally if he felt comfortable sending it. Well, JohnB was comfortable sending it to me, but Danielle (his partner) was not, and now JohnB is siting a little less comfortably.

Any personal information you send to me will be kept confidential, but if it involves your partner or others, make certain you have their permission before you send it.

The result of not asking Danielle is recorded below, with both her and JohnB's permission:

OBVIOUSLY, THESE ARE NOT PHOTOS OF DANIELLE AND JOHNB! [and I am reasonably certain that Johnb's entire bottom was much redder than this.

Hi Mike,

Danielle was annoyed about writing confidential information in a mail to you and the blog. A part of my punishment is to write to you how she dealt with doing this without letting her know.

I was told, I was going to be spanked for this later on that evening. So I waited with a heart full of fear. Would she use the bottom warmer this time. It's a solid oak paddle, 3/4 inch thick, home made, but based on the old reliable from Aunt Kay's blog.

Yes, it's reliable and a great help for an angry lady disciplining her husband.

When it was time, I had to go upstairs for some corner time with the pants down.

And there she was.... in her special outfit.

She started scolding: "How can you do this? You know this information is confidential. Our friends might be embarrassed. We owe it to Mike's discretion that this is not on the street".

JohnB:" Honey I didn't tell a lie. This was true. I even checked the information".

Danielle: "Doesn't matter whether this is true or not. They told us a confidential story. You know everyone can get this information from the internet. And you didn't tell me. Wanted to tell a nice story?"

JohnB:: "Honey, I didn't think".

Danielle: " What I think is, you should get a little reminder that this will not happen again. I won't allow it. Being this is an offence for the first time, this is a 5 on our scale of offences. This time I won't need the bottom warmer. But you know next time you will have a meeting with an old friend..."

And now to business: "Go for the mahogany paddle and drape yourself over my lap".

I did as asked and she added:" No matter which paddle, your bum will show the color of shame when I'm finished".

The spanking started, alternating between the cheeks and interrupted by a renewal of the scolding, all this till my cheeks were burning and red. A picture of my bum after she dealt with my indiscretion has been taken as a reminder for future behavior. Before posting this story, she wants to see what I've written for approval.

JohnB

Dear Mike,

Thanks for your immediate action on this case.

If you want to publish John's email, that's okay.

But ... I like to add a message for Lynn. I'm sure she is as confidential as you.

Danielle

The original messages and Danielle's specific message has been forwarded to Lynn.

bottoms up
Mike

taking the edge off grumpiness

Yesterday morning, Lynn stated just before I was to go out on errands, that I had been grumpy the night before, so we should have a little session with the food stirrer before I left.

I must say that I am out of practice of being spanked, so I tried bending over the kitchen counter immediately, with my jeans on. Lynn, however, stated that 'on the bare' would be much better.

I lowered my pants and underpants, and bent over again.

Lynn delivered about twelve hard strokes with the food stirrer, and they were effective. She informed me that I had everything to be happy about, and nothing to cause me to be grumpy.

Lynn asked while I was about to pull up my clothes if anything was stirring. This resulted in the aftercare actually having a soft kiss to each cheek to make it feel better, and a casual long kiss and then suck of my hardening prick. I was then informed to put it away, and save it for later.

Having only been spanked once by hand in the last three weeks, and then really none for three weeks before that, my bottom finds any spanks much more meaningful. I believe that a bottom can become hardened to spanks if delivered daily.


I can promise you that my bottom is in for a major re-tuning over the next few weeks.

until next time

bottoms up
Red / Mike

spanking implements

I thought I would ask a little feedback from you as to what implement you are normally spanked with. I will follow up this poll in a few days with the number of implements that are usually used in one spanking.




Aunt Kay recommends that normally a spanking should be given with three different implements

Thus, anyone experiencing one spanking session as shown in these three spankings would know that they have been properly and truly spanked.





Using different implements makes sense, in that, using one implement can possibly numb the spankee's bottom, and thus the effectiveness of the spanking is somewhat diminished.





Personally, Lynn's use of her favorite wooden bath brush is extremely effective. Any time she adds on an additional non-wooden implement, the intensity of the spanking is dramatically increased. This happens infrequently, but the soreness remains as a reminder for a significantly longer period.

The sparklit poll no longer works, but when I publish this, we might see the results until spanrklit disappeared

Main Spanking implemet
My partner normally does the major part of my spanking using	the bare hand a hairbrush a wooden paddle a wooden bath brush a leather strap a different leather implement a lexan implement a cane a combination of the above
	Current Results

bottoms up
Red/ Mike

top space

The following discussion on Ladies_Who_Spank_Men@yahoogroups.com I found to be interesting, so am re-posting for readers who are not a member of this group. being honest, I did not read all the commments posted on this topic.

Re: Last Spanking Posted by: "betty keathley" our_ms_betty@yahoo.com our_ms_betty
Wed Nov 8, 2006 9:08 am (PST) Yes, Mike, you are perfectly welcome to use my post.

"Top space" does not come up often in spanking really, but it does come up in relation to more dungeony activities quite a bit (just to warn you in case you discourage discussion of the heavier activities on your blog.) I think that is because most spankos and most people who practice other activities don't see spanking as part of the larger BDSM community. There is some debate about whether it is or not, DEBATE WHICH WE WILL NOT GET INTO HERE, IS THAT CLEAR EVERYONE? but because that mindset exists people tend to mistakenly believe that what applies to heavier play does not apply to spanking and vice versa.

And as a result while the leather folk spend a great deal of time discussing things like mental dynamics, the experience of Topspace and subspace, and the reasons for it, most general spankos have never heard of it, even those who have experienced it. It is good to remember though that both parties need the adjustment time to "come down" afterwards. Ms. Betty-----


My reaction (DWCMIKE):
Since I am the husband that is spanked, I have not really thought of what my wife is thinking while she is spanking me. The one-sided conversation(lecture) of why I am being spanked takes part of my attention, and the wooden bath brush( or another instrument) captures the rest of my attention. Thus, the concept of 'topspace' is intriguing.

What is my wife thinking of while she is spanking me, and does she sometimes go into a topspace zone?

I believe that she is monitoring my reactions, monitoring the level of the spanking, and concentrating on the spanking she is administering, but that does not necessarily take up the entire intellectual capacity that any person has. Especially if this is the same bottom being spanked, that has been spanked hundreds of times before.
However, sometimes after the spanking she is ravenous for immediate sexual interaction, whereas other times we cuddle and kiss gently before progressing further, and at other times sex is not in the cards until much later that day or even the next day.

What are your reactions if you are the spanker?
If you are the spankee, does your partner sometimes go into a 'zone' The best word I can think of is 'euphoric' to attempt to describe the zone for the spanker.


The original letter was as follows: (sent to Ms. Betty)
My wife was still seated and watching me trying to dress just after she finished spanking me three or four weeks ago. As I was pulling up my underwear and trying to gently get them over my swollen ass after the spanking, I'm usually too embarrassed to look at her when I'm spanked and still bawling in front of her, it's humiliating and I generally can't look at her but this time I did and her expressions were interesting. I think that her thoughts were somewhere else; she was just spanking her crying husband as hard and as fast and plenty long enough to make sure that I was very sorry for doing what I did that was getting me spanked with her awful wooden hairbrush. I'm almost sure that she was thinking about other things as she was spanking me. As I was doing what I could to get my underwear over my spanked ass, it was as if she was saying to herself," well I'm finished here, now what's next;" I'm still dancing some in front of her holding a burning spanked ass cheek in each hand and trying my best to pull up my underwear while still sobbing from the spanking. That spanking was almost mechanical and yet properly done. She had a spanked husband standing there in front of her.
I want to ask her about it but I'm not sure what to ask. She does not like criticisms or suggestions when it comes to spanking, she knows that she knows how to do it and by the amount of frantic dancing I was doing across her lap and the dance that I did in front of her just after and holding spanked ass cheeks proved it to me.

Ms. Betty responded as follows:
You know your wife quite well and have been spanked by her often enough to know if she is giving you her full attention. I found your post interesting though because I do something similar. Often right after I've finished a spanking I seem "not quite there". I often have a very grim expression, usually a slight frown. Sometimes if he has not been spanked by me before the man I've just finished spanking thinks he's displeased me in some way. Though this is almost always far from the case.
The thing is despite outward appearances I am not ignoring the naughty boy I have just spanked. I am not thinking about my chore list or errands I must run or my waiting pile of homework. I'm not thinking about the session I just finished, either. To be honest, I'm not really thinking anything. Part of me is monitoring him very careful. I prefer whenever possible to have someone completely back to normal before they leave after a spanking. To that end, I'm watching him? Is he still crying? Are his eyes red? What's the expression on his face? Is he trembling? Are his eyes vacant or glassed over? I'm also listening to the way he's breathing, waiting for it to come back to normal, listening for any other little sounds he might be making. I will admit taking a little bit of pleasure in that gasp he makes when his underwear slids into place and he first feels the pressure of the fabric and elastic on his hot, sore skin. His eyes go wide and the reality of what just happened hits him all over again. It's a wonderful moment.

The thing is that is only taking a small part of my mind. I have no idea where the rest of me is. However, this is fairly common. I'm sure you and most of our other members are familiar with the concept of "subspace". Not as many people know that there is a complimenatry state "Topspace". This is caused by a release of chemicals in the brain just as subspace is, however the chemicals are slightly different, still when it goes right both parties feed into each other and they are off in their own little world. Often I tell people that when I am in the middle of a session they could hold the Rose Parade, the Super Bowl and the Second Coming in my living room less than 10 ft from me and I would not notice. This is because when it is going well I'm in that space, he is in his and all that exists during that time is the session. Just as it takes a little while after it's over for the person being spanked to come back to normal, it takes we who do the spanking some time to do the same.

However, as I said at the begining you know your wife best, and if you think her mind is really elsewhere you should talk to her about it. Don't challenge, don't complain, just say she looks worried about something.

LA CANE une autre fois

Well, I thought my limited French might catch your attention, exactly as the cane has captured Lynn's attention.

Yesterday, my weight was up immensely, which makes absolutely no sense whatsoever. This might mean that we have to take a different approach to losing weight, or simply I might have to stop eating.

I informed Lynn of my weight, and Lynn informed me to get the cane. No waiting around this time. Unfortunatley, the position of me bending, supporting my upper body with my hands on a chair, was not protective of my back. We tried my supporting my entire upper body on a counter, but there was no swing room for Lynn to use the cane.

Lynn, however, remembered that Aunt Kay had stated when we visited that another equally effective way is that I should lay on a bed, with my bottom propped up by pillows. No strain on the back, just on my bottom. [This proves that Lynn is thinking back to the visit to Aunt Kay, and benefitting from her experience.]

Now, the bad point. Lynn stated that maybe the spankings are not working effectively enough because of the sex we have most times immediately after the spanking. Thus, this morning, there would be the spanking, but no sex immediatley following, and as it ended up, we were up very late, and went to sleep with just a cuddle.

We went into the bedroom, Lynn carrying the cane, and I put two pillows on top of each other. I suggested to Lynn that she should try a few practice strokes on the pillows, because this was a different motion than when I was standing bent over at the waist.

Lynn did a few tentative strokes, then smacked the pillows with considerable force, and a loud thud. Lynn cheerfully stated that she was ready, and I slowly lowered my clothes, baring my bottom, and then placed myself on top of the pillows. Lynn was ready, but I was not looking forward to the experience.

Fortunately, Lynn did not cane my bottom as hard as she had the pillows, and gave a few strokes of a very timid nature. No reaction on my part made Lynn aware that she was being timid, such that she stated maybe we will do a few more after she had gotten to six. Another eight or so had her getting a feel for swing and distance, and the last couple received a reaction from me.

The strength of those last two strokes will probably be the starting weight for the next spanking.

When finished, Lynn stated I could get up, and I thanked her for spanking me. Lynn responded that I was welcome, and left the room to continue her day, leaving me to straighten the bed and put the cane away.

The remainder of the day went very pleasantly. What will happen today is probably a repeat of yesterday, because yesterday's immediate spanking was because my weight had gone up, but today is the routine of every second day. Maybe bread and water is the solution.

bottoms up
Red / Mike

more serious discipline

Yesterday, was the "every second day" in our regime of spankings to increase motivation to lose weight. Lynn is increasing the motivation with every spanking.

Since returning home from the business trip, we have moved up the scale from the small hairbrush, to 'old reliable', then to the bath brush, then the 'holy terror'.

Although I have lost some weight, it isn't moving much, and some keeps getting put back on, so increased motivation has been Lynn's goal.

Last night, Lynn in a very happy, cheerfully smiling mood, stated 'it's time for your spanking'! Lynn actually then proceeded to give me a choice, or either be spanked now, and then have dinner, or wait until after dinner. I chose now.

Lynn suggested that maybe she should use the cane! I responded that maybe could she re-read some on Aunt Kay's "Effective Caning Techniques", and practice a little before using the cane. Lynn initialially stated no, 'get a leather thing', but before I had retrieved a leather paddle she changed her mind, and stated get the manual and a cane for me to use.

I retrieved both, then setup a chair that I would bend over, and finally placed a pillow on the chair
where my bottom would be. Lynn picked up both the manual and the cane, aptly named by Aunt Kay as 'hollerin hollow'.

Lynn read a little, especially about positioning herself, and I helped adjust her directions. She then stated she would be fine, and would call me when she was ready. I went and stood in a corner in the next room. While there, I heard a number of solid thuds on the pillow, knowing fully that this practice would soon be reality on my bottom. This was not a very fun listening experience.

Lynn requested I return, and promptly had me standing bare at the waist and bent over the chair, using my hands to support myself. What followed were six smart strokes. They stung, but not as much as the holy terror or bathbrush, but then again, it was only six and Lynn is learning. The bathbrush and every other implement is used for many more spanks, obviously. These cane strokes were not as hard as what Aunt Kay had applied as just part of the spanking lesson she had given to me, in demonstrating how to use various spanking implements to Lynn.

I am certain that Lynn will learn how to use this cane even more effectively with practice. (my bottom being the practice ground.)

Lynn then informed me that she was going to take a bath, and then we would make love. She read the Cosmo Kama Sutra[77 mind blowing postions] [available at amazon.com for 12.48, i just checked] that I mentioned maybe a year ago, and we tried a new positon as part of our love making that was really tremendous. Page 79, the rock and roll. The warmth still in my bottom attested to the fact that the cane had done it's job.


If you do not own a cane, I recommend that you click the link to check out this cane. If you are worried that it might be opened by customs, Aunt Kay nicely describes it as an educational pointer, and the likelyhood of it being opened by customs is about nil.

We have purchased all three canes that we own from Aunt Kay's website.

the following description.

Hollerin' Hollow is a 28" long cane with a stiff character. It's impact is approximately twice that of other canes and it possesses an authority that announces "this is punishment, young man." The woman who wields Hollerin' Hollow will be well served in her efforts to build character in her husband. She will definitely receive the respect she demands. $28 plus shipping

I will post my EXTREMELY POSITIVE thoughts on Aunt Kay's Effective Caning Techniques in the next few days, and why you should purchase it.

The spankings are effective, but maybe sex immediately afterwards is fighting against there being totally effective.

bottoms up
Red / Mike

rain rain rain

Well, that sums up the weather, unless it gets a touch colder, in which case it will be snow, snow, snow...The spankings have been less on the home front, but at least three bend over now for a taste of the wooden spoon. Maybe we are being a little testy with each other, the post "Christmas holiday / New Year partying and accompanying stress".

Hopefully, things will be normal soon.

bottoms up
Mike/red

spanking drawings and photos with text

I thought it was time to show a few more drawings, and photos with text, on our favorite subject.





I can imagine that when the children are all grown, and left the house, a new and unique way of using a spare room might be to roast someone's bottom, and opposed to making it into a all-purpose room.






However, whenever the house is empty, with children having flown the coop, or else off at school and you both have some time off, then this picture with text is perfect for any problem.

This offers sage advice to all spankers.




Solving a problem immediately when you find out is the ideal!

Every action has a re-action!

For two separate offenses, many times it is best to give two separate spankings, maybe separated by only an hour in between. Thus, the spanker is rested, but the spankee will still feel the first spanking, while receiving the second. Double the trouble, double the fun!!!

Planning ahead is always important.


If a wife feels she needs to spank her husband but is alone, a phone call at work will certainly transfer the stress and upset feelings she has to the proper recipient. Why fret all day, when yuo can remove the stress and give it first verbally, and then physically when he gets home.

Doing this while he is at work transfers the stress from you to him, and when he arrives home you know exactly how you intend to discipline him.
So, a thoughtful reminder is :


anytime, anywhere

There were some other good drawings, but they have the man responding as if he is a boy, and the woman although clearly his own age, is talking like the mother. Personally, we feel no need to age play, I am a grown man who is spanked whenever needed, to help maintain a loving and harmonious lifestyle with my wife.

bottoms up
Mike/ Res

last spanking for 2006

Twas the night before New Year's Eve
and all through the house,
not a creature was stirring,
except for Lynn, her leather straps and paddles, and myself.

Lynn is really returning to the DWC fold with enthusiasm, as slowly, we evolve into being together without family again. It has been wonderful having close family visiting with us, and our son home for the holidays.

In private, Lynn has reminded me that once everyone has gone, she wil be free to spank me whenever it is needed. This could be quite often in the short term as some of my less admirable habits have returned. I am certain that a few spankings will have us completely on track. However, some spankings may occur simply because Lynn is in the mood to spank me. I am loving the affectionate pats she gives to my bottom almost daily while in private.



Oh the weather outside is frightful,
but inside activities are (mostly) delightful,
because no matter how hard the rain falls, (and blows and gusts and blows)
the spanks reign :> the spanks reign :> The SPANKS REIGN :> :> :>

This last spanking had me bare bottom as usual, with Lynn deciding I should lie on the bed, after retrieving the leather implements for her. Lynn is now able to spank with abandon with these instruments, knowing that they are not dangerous as a wooden bath brush might be. Also, with her standing, she has complete freedom of movement, as opposed to when I am laying over her lap.

I miss the intimacy of laying over her lap, but the spanking is usually more intense laying on the bed, and Lynn relishes using three different implements. (The leather strap, leather finger strap, and the leather paddle) Lynn is becoming very accomplished with these.

The ensuing make-up loving sex was tremendous, which eventually involved my orally bringing Lynn to climax, followed by her taking the on top position, grinding my sore bottom onto the bed, before doing her exquisite squats bringing me to a thunderous climax.

So, a Happy New Year to all, and may all your spankings be followed by wonderful sexual experiences.

And may you be in love forever...

bottoms up
Red / Mike

No nonsense spanking

Lynn came home yesterday, and I went to greet her as usual. This has become a habit, instead of simply calling out "Hi" and continuing whatever I was doing. This has been one of Lynn's ideas, that whoever comes home should be greeted and share an affectionate kiss.

It is a good idea, but if I forget, a hairbrush is always a alternative response to a lack of a proper greeting, instead of a kiss.

This time, I greeted Lynn and asked how she was, and her response was that she was fine. In addition, she added that when she has put her coat and parcels away, she was going to spank me. This was totally unexpected!

I asked if I could help with her coat, and also requested whatI had done wrong. Lynn responded she would tell me while spanking me!!!

We almost immediately went upstairs, where I was informed to get the spanking chair, and carry it so that the wheels did not make marks in the carpet. Lynn requested the bath brush, and when seated, informed me to lower my pants and underwear, and get over her lap.The spanking started immediately with enthusiasm. The spanks struck home often before the explanation was given. I was informed that Lynn had decided in the morning after I had gone to work that she was fed up of my taking some food from the kitchen and walking around the house eating it without a plate. Thus crumbs were forever dropping on the floor. The spanking picked up in intensity as Lynn vented some of her pent up frustrations.

I very readily promised to discontinue this practice immediately, and after a number of more spanks, Lynn finally stopped. I thanked Lynn for the spanking, and we kissed. This progressed into very passionate kissing, followed by wonderful sucking, licking, and exceptionally passionate sex.

The aftermath, one day later, is that we are more affectionate than ever, and I am careful what I eat, and where. Also, although the spanking occured around 6Pm, my bottom was still red when we went to bed.

May all your little problems, insignificant to the spanked husband or spanked wife, be solved in such a wonderful method of spank and change your ways, instead of constant battling or arguing.

bottoms up
Mike/Red

Why we allow ourselves to be spanked!

This is a interesting question to ask yourself. It comes from a comment from Fred that he posted a few days ago.

FRED wrote: One thing I know already: because of this spanking and the others I've been given, we get over things and move on. Even if finances are tight, etc., we feel like we're working at it together. And I have the wonderful, powerful, assertive woman back that I fell in love with 25 years ago!

DWcMike:
I agree, it solves problems, and allows the couple to move on.
Also, spanking is my fetish, but as my spankings become more commonplace, the immediate sexual arousal is not quite as fast, and disappears very quickly. Fortunately, Lynn revives my arousal after most spankings.

MAYBE WHILE I AM AWAY, OTHERS MIGHT LIKE TO WRITE A RESPONSE ALSO.

How hard are your spankings:

Fred wrote about a specific problem:
This has caused Ann long term feelings of anger. She asked me how bad the spanking should be. I told her and she responded saying that she would spank me until two conditions were met:
1. That she felt that she had completely vented her anger and frustration.
2. My bottom looks bad enough.

She said she simply will not stop until she thinks my bottom looks like she has punished it to the equivalent of the depth of her feelings on the matter.

https://beautiful-when-shes-angry.tumblr.com/

She said be prepared for her to rest, etc., and then to come back to do more. I'll let you know the outcome. Hopefully Fred will write well I am away, for everyone to read.

DWCMIKE: my spankings have become harder and longer, and Lynn is more readily willing to use spankng me as a problem solving method in our house. every spanking is stronger than when she first began, and I would say significantly stronger in the last few months. (or have I just been tenderized)

Have your spankings gotten harder and longer from when they began?
bottoms up
Red

a few drawings

I thought I would just attach a couple of drawings. I hope that the artists do not mind.The best way to deliver a warm paddling with the 'holy terror' might be as shown in this drawing by Danny M. Anyone knowing where further art of this nature cna be found should let us all know.



until then

bottoms up

Mike

quickie post

I hope that all the readers have had a Merry Christmas, and that things are looking bright for the New Year. If some do not celebrate Christmas, I hope that htey are enjoying the holiday season.

May one of the brightest things in the New Year be the rosy glow from your well spanked bottom.

I thought I would post two mooska captioned photos for the day.
The second is a wonderful thought. Ou r partner may not be as beautiflul as these tow women, but this is with special lighting, and make-up. Seeing these ladies in real life would be different.

The reality of our wonderfully beautiful and sexy partner is that they are real, and the spankings they give are REAL.



Have a great day.
bottoms up
Mike