Sunday, August 20, 2017

corner time

UPDATE: MATT has sent me the link to the commentary of the spanking of an unwilling teenage girl. I will NOT post the link, as this would just play to the fantasy of any readers so interested. It really is an unnecessary inclusion by the author! However, spanking of children is an ongoing debate in some circles, and a few faith based groups try to blend it with religion. I find that a sad occurrence.

As everyone knows, if you click on a blogger name, it will bring up their profile, and would show the blogs that they write, and the blogs that they subscribe to. Thus, clcik away on the extreme ones, and you can read just about anything.

PS: Many people would find what is written here to be abhorrent! Such is life. ENJOY!!!

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Probably I deserve a time-out for not thoroughly checking out a blog before posting a link. However,knowing what most people reading this blog would think, corner time on its own without suitable chastisement would be insufficient.

Depending on the level of annoyance, this might be a significant hand warm-up, followed by the trusty hairbrush
and maybe a strap to make certain the idea was remembered.
bottoms up
Mike

Friday, August 18, 2017

Spanking Lynn

Well, time to explain a little more of our lifestyle.

The first item is that my spankings are never like the spankings described on the DWC website.The article in "tips and methods" is excellent, but we do NOT follow the summary that ends with "When you let him up, his eyes should be wet with tears, his knees should be quivering, and it should be obvious by looking at his bottom that he is displaying the marks left after a good session."

My bottom is well spanked, as are the backs of my upper legs sometimes, but I have never been in tears or knees quivering. We believe that this description is more for show, than reality. It is NOT necessary to spank to this extreme to be effective.

Lynn spanking me is extremely effective in relieving my stress, or in relieving her anger/disappointment with me, or simply reminding me of how I should behave.

I have been acting more dominate lately, and I am reasonably certain that Lynn will give me a spanking to remember who is in charge of spankings almost exclusively.However, the husband is not always wrong. Lynn has done a couple of things that were really wrong, and developed from her allowing stress to build in her life, and not reacting to the stress reasonably. The easiest way is to talk to me about the stress, and how we can solve it.

The result of the behaviour had Lynn agreeing to Seven real spanks on her bare bottom. I thoroughly enjoyed the view of Lynn's beautiful bare bottom, as all husbands do. The spanks were firm, and did not even elicit an ouch! Previous rare spankings have had Lynn ouching with only four spanks. The spanking was followed by fabulous hot sex. I am certainly not one to hold grudges.

Two days later, though, another case of the stress Lynn permits to build surfaced, and resulted in a spanking of eight spanks. [ You might see that I am adding one each time their is a need for another spanking] Her bottom displayed a very nice shade of pinkish red where my hand had spanked, and the sex afterwards was really memorable. My hand was sore after the spanking, so it does not have the callouses that my bottom has built up over time.

Have the spankings reduced the stress? Not really, but they have helped a little for the time being. While being spanked, and then making love, the worries of the world tend to diminish, and can be followed by a wonderful nights sleep.

The point of this posting is to let everyone know that I believe both partners can and should be spanked at some times. Both parties can benefit from a spanking. This is more in line with the Dorothy Spencer Plan than the DWC plan. However, we might state that the spanking ratio is maybe hundred to one Lynn spanking me, and I have only built up to eight hand spanks of Lynn.

Many women love being spanked, and the blogs you can read are amazing. I wholeheartedly recommend Hermione's to you, if you have yet to visit, as well as Tiggs and Bonnie's.

Spankings can be for fun, or for discipline, but they bring the couple closer together than ever. Old Fashioned Micheal might agree.

Now a fun video, if you watch to the end.... Wish they showed these type of commercials in north America!
video
Bottoms up
Mike

Wednesday, August 16, 2017

red and white

Well, Lynn yesterday very justifiably gave me a bare bottom spanking! Sometimes, my responses are sarcastic, and they inevitable have me regretting what I sometimes think is humor.Lynn lay on the bed, and I lay over her knees, while she used the wooden hair brush that we own. Repeated spanks to the same spot, before moving to a new spot, certainly changed my attitude to using sarcastic remarks.

Today, had a repeat performance, and it is only mid-afternoon. This time it was once again the hair brush, which is made by a company called Goody. She picked it up and said GOODY, both in delight to be about to solve a problem, and humor in using the name of the company which so coincides with the effect it had on her, and the effect she was intending to make on me.

Hopefully I will earn soon!

bottoms up
Mike

Reasons why OTK spankings are great

This has been borrowed (that is copied) from the TASKA yahoo group site, for your amusement. The sex of the spanker and spankee has been changed to fit this blog. Posted by "Alice Kerr-Sutherland"

First, they are good for your health.
* The spanker gets a good workout chasing an errant partner, dragging them to the chair, holding then in place despite their struggles, and of course the effort of a truly good spanking.

* For the spankee, the effort of running, struggling, and of course all that kicking and waving arms around. Better than Aerobics!

* Spankees spend more time standing, even dancing frantically. Much healthier activity than sitting. Perhaps we can teach the spank aerobics in gyms? Worlds more fun than step, and way more action than yoga.

* Spanking is great for the circulation. First all the blood rushes to the head as the spankee is positioned over the knee. Then when the spanking begins the blood rushes to the bottom. Soon the face is red with crying and yelling, the heart rate jumps as arms and legs wave and kick. By the end the heart has had an excellent workout.
Again, roll on spank aerobics. (And I intend to patent that. But you can all buy shares.)

* Asthmatics are often told to take up swimming to improve lung capacity. Think of the wonderful benefits of a spanking, plenty of exercise and a good workout for the lungs too, but without all the time spent getting to the pool, changing clothes, drying off, etc.

* Along the same lines, think of aspiring singers. Spankees often hit notes that Opera singers can only dream about. And sustain them for amazingly long periods. The opportunity is there for a truly effective training program.. And there is that improvement in lung capacity again. All that yelling..... it has to pay off.

* Mental agility is improved too. Trying to think up excuses that will work to avoid a spanking, looking for hiding places for contraband, trying to find a loophole in the rules, all keep a spankee alert. And of course the spanker is playing the other side; watching, checking, continually on her toes. That sort of thinking keeps you young.

Secondly, they help you save money.

* Less wear and tear on the furniture. After all, the two of you use only one chair. And afterwards the spankee doesn't sit at all for a while..

* You can examine the carpet for marks and stains while you are down there. Might find a lost pen or a few coins too, if you check around.

* It's a cheap hobby. No equipment at all is required, just a place for the spanker to sit. If he decides to go beyond a hand spanking many appropriate implements are lying around the house, just begging to be used. Much cheaper than the expense of buying golf clubs, scuba gear or electric trains.

* Spankers often find that giving a spanking to that hot red bottom, which is doing all that wriggling on your lap, has a somewhat arousing/ moistening effect. Just a bit. Think of the savings on Viagra. Although, it may be interesting trying to fill the prescription.

Thirdly, they can add excitement to your life.

* Just imagine you are going to the most boring party on earth. As you arrive your partner whispers in your ear, Behave yourself tonight or I'll be warming that naughty little bottom of yours when we get home..
Instantly your mind is alert. Just how far can you push? You know you are being watched all the time. You flirt, you tease, always keeping one eye open. And then it happens, the whisper, Right Young man, that's enough. You'll be in the corner as soon as we get home. I want to see that naughty bottom of yours on display. And then you're going over my knee and I'm spanking you until you are one sorry young man.
The rest of the party passes in a blur of thrills and chills, terrified anticipation and shivery excitement. Definitely not dull.

* A simple shopping trip becomes a roller coaster of thrills. Do I buy it? Can I afford it? Will she find out?
* As you walk around the house, just seeing a hairbrush lying on the dresser or a wooden spoon in a kitchen drawer can bring a little tingle in the tummy, or a bit lower down. Your own home is more exciting than an amusement park.
And the best of all:

* A good spanking often leads to an extended session of rumpy-pumpy. And if you need me to tell you why that's a good thing, you are doing it wrong!
So, ladies and gentlemen, I rest my case.

Web-site: http://www.ourcastle.com
Governess,
Miss Alice Kerr-Sutherland
Owner/Manageress
of Yahoo! group: "The Alice Kerr-Sutherland Association"

bottoms up
Mike

Monday, August 14, 2017

Laurent Lebeau art

Laurent's creation of this woman shown in the above art is absolutely amazing. Seeing her drawn 'in action', so to speak, in a spanking scene, is fun. I believe these drawings are truly excellent.

I have had some very gracious email conversations with Mr. Lebeau.

I, like many other people probably do, have copies of spanking art and spanking photos that they have come across while browsing the web. You simply right click on the item, then choose save as, and then save it into a folder that is buried deeply enough that no one simply looking over your shoulder would wonder about the folder. Thus, a few days ago, I thought I would publish a few of Laurent Lebeau's drawings. I did not remember what site they came from, so after creating the posting, I Googled his name and found a few places. One had an email address for Mr. Lebeau, and thus I emailed him to ask permission to use

Laurent focuses on all aspects of femdom, and has excellent art. Some readers may be attracted to his dressing men in woman's clothing, while dominating and spanking them. Some might fantasize about a younger woman spanking an older man. Being truthful, some of his art is not to my liking, but that is when he has a girl watching a older man being spanked.

One fun idea is that Laurent is not afraid of showing the dominant woman holding the man's erection while guiding him over her knee.

In my opinion, a far more erotic way than simply pulling him into position by his ear. The sexual aspect of spanking and domination is always present.

A google search on the artist's name brings up a number of sites where his artwork can be viewed, and possibly purchased.

Click on the following link to see his most current art. Laurent Lebeau artwork

I have also found a myspace site that Laurent has! Laurent describes himself:
I am from France. I enjoy travelling a lot being both a writer and artist. I find my inspiration in all the thing I see around me. I have seen many landscapes, many people, many feelings and they are all my unique richness I am a graphic artist of the wonderful Fetish World and I illustrate fantasies and decorate playspaces... I am into the ''scene'' I invite you to discover more...

If you are a member of yahoo groups, then you could join his Yahoo Group!
After a letter back and forth, I received the following:
" Okay I send you a series of spanking discipline artworks and you can take my info in my website... Please mention I will be in art show next Thursday 28th 2009 New York City... for who want attend. free participation upon reservation
all my best Laurent"

Laurent is mentioning " The Fetish Marathon 2009 in New York City, Thursday May 28th, through Sunday May 31. Laurent also wrote: "Please mention I will be in artshow next Thursday 28th 2009 New York City... for who want attend. free participation upon reservation." Unfortunately, I do not know the address of the artshow.

So. Laurent has sent me about twenty drawings with permission to use them on this blog only.
I will use a few at a time over the next few months. The choices for today were of a man, cross dressing, but not totally unhappy with this aspect, if you look closely at the last drawing.

bottoms up
Mike

Saturday, August 12, 2017

Humor Friday + Advantages of a adult email address

You might be starting to realize that my sense of humor is not necessarily the same as yours. Our likes and dislikes are possibly different. The fact that everyone is different makes life interesting. There is not only the Mars and Venus type scenario, but no two people are ever truly the same. The following cartoon from lewdart.com I find hilarious.
The following photo is why I believe we need FREEDOM FROM RELIGION!
Adult separate email account: I enjoy having a spanking and adult minded email account. When privacy exists at home, (not meaning I hide from Lynn, but that no others are around), it is fun to check my spanking related dwcmike account for readers comments, personal emails, and sites I have joined simply for the content of their emails. I would never do this type of activity from my normal email account. One slip, and your private life is toast.
As Hermione commented:
It takes very little time to set up a profile, and you don't really have to bother with a picture. Choose a fictitious name. Now's your chance to be whomever you want to be!
Just make sure you first have an email account that's strictly for your private blogging posts.

Another example: firmhandspanking.com
If you visit this site, and then subscribe to their email service (free of course), they will send you a few pictures and a few videos each and every week. Now, the site is women being spanked, but I truly enjoy spanking, and I would personally rather see a woman's wonderful body and booty, than a male's anytime.

Back to the humor: (meet the twins)
I will try to give more reasons for a separate email address for adult content in a few days.
bottoms up
Mike

Thursday, August 10, 2017

Male Submission in advertisements

I thought I would post a few pictures just for your amusement, or titillation.
Let your imagination GUESS what is being sold in this advertisement.
No matter what age you might be, if you are alive, these Jordache jeans look great!
Have a fun weekend
bottoms up


Mike

Monday, August 07, 2017

Would you admit that you are spanked

The questions are:

1. Has anyone ever seen your bottom after it has been spanked, and seen traces or marks from the spanking?

2. If they have, and asked, "what happened to you?", would you respond that your partner has spanked you, and this is the result. Furthermore, I accept her right to spank me whenever she feels it is necessary. We are more in love than ever because she spanks me.



Evan said in a comment to a previous posting:

1. Quite possibly: The day we went to sandy Hook, I didn't see anyone I knew. I sunbathed with a white sun hat sort of concealing my face (covering the eyes).
In the changing room at the gym i have complied with her requirements and do not try to conceal either the submission shavings or the marks on my buttocks. I am never sure how obvious they still are after a day or two, I notice them but because I am looking. I also think that as the years go by it is less uncomfortable to display shaven genitals, since it is becoming very common, if anything it makes me part of the younger crowd since 20s and 30s seem to do it almost routinely not to please a dominant partner.

2. I have promised that if asked i will say that I was spanked and that she was right to do it because I deserved it. However, that has never happened. No-one ever asked.


My response:
1. I have been at the gym when spanking marks are still showing, but in the change room I try to stay in a corner so that no one sees while I change. I, however, do shower in the public area, and a hot shower re-ignites the reddness in my bottom, so it probably has been seen.

2. If asked, I would respond yes, depending on who asked.
A stranger while we are out of town, definitely yes.
A close friend, yes.
Someone I know in sports, but not a close friend, no.

I have changed. Writing this blog has helped, reading other people's blogs has helped, and personal advice from Aunt Kay has helped. I am no longer ashamed that I am spanked, and actually quite proud that I accept being spanked, such that I would probably say yes in most circumstances.

bottoms up
Mike

Sunday, August 06, 2017

misty eyes

Misty Eyes (Wednesday Jan 11)

The intensity of the chastisement in my spankings is definitely increasing, such that this was the first ever spanking by my wife that left me with misty eyes. Our son had gone out on a few messages, and Lynn suggested that a spanking was in order, but that we didn’t know when our son would be back.. I assured her that we had at least another ten minutes, so she should spank me immediately if she felt it would be useful. Lynn agreed.

What I thought would be a quick spanking turned out to be a very strict, no nonsense, slow and intense spanking. I was requested to get the bath brush, and Lynn immediately sat down on the bed. No time was wasted obtaining the spanking chair, nor getting the shoes that Lynn normally wears, simply lower your pants and underwear, and bend over her awaiting lap.

Slow (every two to three seconds), regular hard swats were methodically applied to my bottom, alternating from cheek to cheek. Little pause existed between the first ten, and the next set that followed. The lecture was equally slow, followed by a few quicker spanks at the end of the sentence for emphasis. My ears were well tuned to everything Lynn was saying, and also in case I heard the garage door opening, which would signal our son's return. [No such luck]

The spanks continued past forty, with real arm movement and gusto, before a short pause occurred. Lynn, however, informed me she was just resting, and that the spanking was not over.

Whap! The spanks started on the top of the back of my legs, and the crease where the legs join the buttocks. One trick that I have used to lessen the severity is to mentally count the strokes, but by this time I had totally lost count. This is a behaviour that I am trying to stop, but re-appears during an intense spanking.

Somewhere about this time, I could feel my eyes getting misty. My butt was extremely sore, my legs had been kicking a bit, and I am uncertain if I was saying ouch when the spanks were landing.

One more brief pause, and then a flourish of very hard spanks ended the spanking. This was the most spanks I have ever received from the bath brush, and quite possibly from any spanking instrument that we own. My buns were beet red, with an ashen color in the middle of the red. If you have seen the pictures I previously posted, this was much more significant than those pictures. Lynn admired her handiwork, but no time existed for any love-making. We cuddled, and told each other how much we love each other, and I thanked her for taking the time to spank me whenever needed.

We heard the garage door open, and our son had returned.

Four hours later, I looked at my bottom, and it was still extremely red, and the ashen part was now completely red also. I was reminded of the spanking each time I sat down.

When going to bed, about ten hours after the spanking, my bottom was still significantly red, although the back of the legs had returned to a normal color. Lynn looked at my bottom, but not sympathetically, more in an admiring tribute to her handy work, or should I more correctly state her brush work.

If the spanking had continued, I believe the possibility strongly exists that I would have been crying, without mentally willing myself into that state.

The make-up sex that accompanies every spanking, had to wait a day, but was tremendous the next evening.

Conclusion:

Lynn is now very comfortable spanking me when she feels it is needed, and does not need me to suggest that I be spanked if a disagreement arises,

Lynn is much more assertive, but fair in being assertive, which I truly appreciate. Many times in the past, I have used my assertiveness to get my own way, even when that was not the best solution to the problem. This no longer happens.

Lynn playfully pats my bottom at times, which serves as both sexually stimulating touching, but also as a reminder of what could happen. Occasionally this bottom patting occurs in public, which really startles me.

Lynn is becoming a true DWC woman, and this gives me great pleasure.

Aside: Last night she used her stern voice to ask me to come upstairs please, and I scurried upstairs. The tap drips in the bathtub, and she wanted to make me aware that I should get it fixed sooner than later. She had been telling me about it for maybe a few weeks or more. Our son was at home, so nothing progressed into the spanking mode, but I am reasonably certain that if we had been alone, I would have been spanked then and there, and warned of a repeat spanking if it wasn’t fixed very soon. I intend to call a plumber today, if I am not confident to be able to fix it myself.

Bottoms up
Mike

Saturday, August 05, 2017

bend over more, and put your bottom out

Two quick spankings occurred on Saturday. An unfortunate choice of words in the morning had my wife indicating she wanted to spank me for them, but a family memeberwas nearby at the time. We have agreed that it is inappropriate for us to excuse ourselves immediately when my wife is upset, and go upstairs, close the door, put on music, and then return a couple of minutes later.

Alone shortly thereafter, but my wife was in the midst of cooking, so my wife contented herself with my baring my bottom, bending over slightly, and being chastised with about eight swift solid spanks with the soup stirrer. They really sting, because it is light, wooden, and easy to swing swiftly. One would think that the hole would lessen the effect, but it amplifies the effect for all those unaware of a holey spanking utensil. The clinical explanation is that the air can escape when the implement catches your bottom, thus the solid wood part makes far greater contact. A paddle without holes, in effect, creates a small layer of air that gets trapped between your bottom and the paddle, thus minimizing some of the impact of the spank. She stated that that was all the time she had to deal with me FOR NOW!

Baring the bottom: I usually wear track pants around the house, so it is a very simple matter to lower them and the underwear that is beneath. Thus, any spanks being given can be given on the bare in absolutely no time, and covered up immediately.

My wife had finished cooking, and we were upstairs in our bedroom when I suggested that I hope the spanking before solved the problem, but if it didn’t would she please deal with it now, instead of harboring any ill feelings. She agreed, and proceeded to take out the bath brush. One look this time at my clothing, informed me to lower my clothes, and another nod of the head informed me to bend over.

BUT THIS TIME WAS DIFFERENT. MY WIFE STATED TO BEND OVER MORE, AND PUT YOUR BUM OUT. She has never before stated this, and when about to receive spanks from the bath brush, I have tried to stay as upright as possible. My method has been to keep my hands on the counter, and my arms reasonably straight, giving an upright target.. This time, I was in the classic completely bent at the waist, for a swinging bath brush. When leaning on the counter with my elbows resting on the counter, and my head almost touching my arms she stated, THAT’S BETTER!” The feeling of being totally exposed, at her request, and awaiting her spanks was erotically frightening. She then proceeded to give me numerous full swinging spanks, which really got the message across, and elicited groans from me. When she stopped my bottom was red and sore, and I had truly felt each and every spank. We hugged and I thanked her for taking the time to solve our problem.

This is a new step in our evolution. She has realized that how far I bend will affect how significant her spanks are, and she is willing to take the lead and determine exactly how she wants my bottom presented for her attention. OUCH!

Love making that night was thrilling, and enhanced by my wife now teasing me a little about how she would bare my bottom when she felt it was needed, and spank my naughty bottom. She decided to orally please me, and allowed my cum to fill her mouth without missing a stroke. She swallowed most of the cum, and we French kissed sharing the rapture and the taste. I, then returned the pleasure orally for her, with her having a most rapturous climax.

So, progress goes in very small steps, then takes a gigantic leap.
Who knows what the future will unfold.


Bottoms up
Mike

Friday, August 04, 2017

The Queen has Ruled

The Queen has declared this photo opportunity day. She has declared that....Mike

Thursday, August 03, 2017

The Cane

At my suggestion, my wife is experimenting with one of two nylon canes that we own. [purchased from the DWC website]

The description of the cane that we are using is as follows: "The Buggy Whip is 28" long, thin, and extremely flexible. The exceptional flexibility of this cane makes it a very interesting implement. The cane flexes on your back swing and just leaps forward as you deliver the stroke. With a little practice you will become very comfortable using this cane and you will enjoy the drama of it's swishy-flexy motion as it rushes toward its waiting target."

Why are we using this? With our son back at home today, we do not want a repeat of the grumpy attitude that I developed during the past month. Without the easy opportunity of being spanked, the attitude did not improve. Thus, an effective little session with the cane can be done in our upstairs bathroom, in less than a minute.

My wife agreed that another spanking was needed, and she took charge as we entered the bedroom. I was informed to retrieve the cane, and disrobe from the waist down. She requested that I kneel on our bed, with three pillows in front of me to place my arms on. She first moved the cane up and down my bottom, giving me a feel of the cane, maybe steading her resolve, and increasing both of our anticipation of what was about to occur.

Lynn administered 12 strokes of the cane, with a few seconds between each stroke. One difference of the bath brush to the cane is that the bite is more severe, and you can feel it burn. The seconds between allows the burn to become more intense, without becoming numb. A few strokes were with some force, but many were not. The strokes with strength hurt significantly, and definitely focus your attention.

This will need practice, as Lynn is reluctant to spank solidly, and in many ways I am grateful for this. She has absolutely no reluctance to spank as hard as she wants with the bath brush, and my bottom has been red the day later. However, with the cane, there were no marks when Lynn had finished the spanking, but a burning sensation did still last for most of the day.

Eventually, Lynn will probably be comfortable leaving red stripes, and both I and my bottom will be very sorry.

However, this was an excellent start to having a readily available solution to a problem if it is needed.

I thanked her for the spanking, and the love making that followed was tremendous. After xx years of marriage, we are more adventurous and amorous than ever before. We started by kissing, which lead to me moving lower sucking and kissing Lynn's breasts and paying special attention to her nipples, and then moving lower to her vagina. When Lynn was on the verge of orgasm, we stopped to attempt to mimic the accompanying position. Due to her having immensely increased her flexibility by taking aerobatic and yoga exercises at the gym, this position was easily accomplished, and enthusiastically used. I could not reach around to fondle her clit, but we both had a wonderful time, and I had a mind blowing orgasm. We then returned to my going down orally on my wife, and the taste of some of my cum mixed with her juices was great, and her almost immediate orgasm was fantastic.

This loving experience was followed later in the evening with a lobster dinner and white wine, which put a perfect ending to a wonderfully loving day. The spanking had forgiven specific sins, and been a prelude to fantastic sex, and a great evening.

Since that night, I have had two more visits( separate occasions) by the cane, which I will describe in the next couple of posts. [when availability of the computer alone occurs]

For extra ideas in sexually enjoying each other, we strongly recommend Cosmopolitan's "The Cosmo Kama Sutra - 77 mind-blowing sex positions". Buy it for your lover for Valentine's day, neither of you will regret it. This photo came from page 59 I believe, and they describe hold to achieve the position,and the relative difficulty, and the :> rewards :>


The items purchased from DWc are no longer avaialbe, as this post comes from 2006.
bottoms up
Mike

Wednesday, August 02, 2017

Laugh and be happy

The first cartoon is for all those ladies bloggers ( Hermione, r, Bonnie, ...) who have blogs to celebrate their love of being spanked. However, they like being spanked only by their partner, so these must be women still seeking a partner. Of course, with the Venus and Mars scenario:

Even though they might like to be spanked, they may not actually ask to be spanked during any given week.

Here is the solution

I wonder if they ever want to try taking a hands on approach of their own, simply to "test the waters"
However, remember the motto: Safe, Sane, Consensual!
Guess the gender of our candies of the day. Ever wonder that SM reversed is MS!Mike

Tuesday, August 01, 2017

the disciplinarian

Hi:
In using stats counter, it shows how visitors arrive at your blog site. I recently saw a significant amount were coming from http://disciplinarian.blogspot.com/, so I went to see what connection we might have.

One quote from the site:

"The idea behind Domestic Discipline is to administer punishment when it is needed - then make up and forget the whole incident. In this way, every disagreement is effectively closed before it has time to grow into a much more serious problem. Domestic Discipline is a way of getting life and ourselves back in harmony with each other."

The site is written by Nikki, and I found it very informative in many of the aspects she chooses to write about. Nikki spanks her male partner (D), whenever it is needed.

However, the focus of her site is not to detail the spankings, but to detail the thoughts involved in a domestic discipline situation. The site has guidelines which we mostly agree with, and possibly some ideas worth reading and discussing with your mate.

I recommend that after reading a few posts, you then start from when the site was started, and work forward to the present.

Let Nikki and I know what you think of the site.

an interesting site to visit, but it stopped posting in 2006. However, still useful advice
bottoms up
red

Monday, July 31, 2017

husband tamer


The best spankings to receive, are when they are least expected. No time exists to prepare yourself, simply to bare yourself.

Lynn surprised me yesterday morning by stating we have something to talk about. She immediately sat on the bed, and requested me to get the husband tamer paddle.

We have never really used this paddle, so my wife asking me to retrieve it by name meant she had not only decided to spank me, but she had already planned how she was going to make her ideas known to me.


The pictures show that this is an effective spanking implement, which I was to have my first real taste of since purchasing it.

How did we come to purchase it: This I will save for a later post

The spanking was for a bottom still sore from the Saturday night bottom out bath brushing. Bare bottom, over the knees, no warmup, just correction. The sin: we had agreed on one Scotch and ice before dinner, and one wine bottle for dinner. At the table with the other couple, I asked if we should open a second bottle of wine when the first was finished. It was agreed not to, but at that point the die was cast. Lynn impressed upon my bottom that it was demeaning to discuss another bottle, that we had already agreed on the amount as considerate hosts for the other couple that would drive home later. Even though the answer was no more wine, I should never have asked. We also had one Drambuie with ice after dinner while looking at digital photos of our last vacation together.

The spanking was different, a totally different feel, catching both cheeks at the same time, and more stingy than the bath brush. Equally effective as many spanks rained down on my bottom.

Lynn had thought out this spanking, because when it stopped, she stated that it was my turn to please her. We cuddled, then proceeded to my slowly kissing all over her body. She eventually straddled my face, and I, while lying on my back, greedily licked and sucked her cunt, while fondling her ass and breasts. With a finger inside her pussy, and the other hand fondling her nipples, she had a very guttural and loud climax. When the throes of orgasm subsided, she lowered herself downwards lying on top of me, and guiding my prick into her cunt. We fucked and kissed, while she ground her vagina into me. My butt was sore, and this action increased the effect, and the orgasm that soon followed was tremendous....

Spankings followed by sex are fantastic. Problems are solved, and the makeup sex is fantastic.

Unfortunately, due to another fault one hour later, I was quickly bared and bent over, receiving ten quick strong spanks with the bath brush. that problem was then put behind us also. How significant was that problem? At the time of this writing, I cannot remember what it was for, but the problem was dealt with, and the remainder of the day was a continuance of our love affair.

bottoms up
Mike

Sunday, July 30, 2017

purchasing the husband tamer

I was browsing a beach shop in L.A. with my wife, and I saw a variety of paddles with titles of this nature. Other titles include wife tamer, and 'for the cute little dear(deer) with the bare(bear) behind', and similar appropriate sayings.

I quietly showed it to my wife, and after leaving the store, I asked if she would go back and buy it. She could pass it off as a joke present for her husband. She responded that if I wanted the paddle, I should go and buy it. I did go back and buy it, but it was very embarrassing as one older saleslady showed it to the other sales lady nearby, and they both chuckled. I made a lame comment about it being a funny present for a friend, and they nodded and stated 'sure'. Lynn and I had been the only ones in the store a little while earlier, and I had come back about 30 minutes later to purchase only this item. My explanation was obviously untrue. [I paid cash, I would not want them to know my name with a credit card]

Have you ever purchased one of these type paddles in obviously not a adult themed store? What did you say when purchasing it? Does my experience encourage you to buy one? If ever I did buy another, I would quite openly state that it helps solve marital problems sometimes, and we don't seem to have one with us on this vacation. I might even do this just for the reaction of the sales woman.

Previously, I have purchased a few paddles, but have come to know the sales people, and kink is their main raison d'etre. All other spanking instruments have been bought through the mail.

bottoms up
Mike

Saturday, July 29, 2017

Grouchiness methodically spanked away, love making just as thorough

Monday, Oct 24

Last night(saturday), all grumpiness was completely spanked out of my mind and body.

Lynn put on a sexy one piece black leather outfit, that narrows into a thong. She looked fantastic, and actually agreed for me to take a few pictures of her holding the bath brush.

Although we took the pictures in the bedroom, we walked downstairs to the main floor for the spanking. We used the front room adjacent to the front door, and I am beginning to worry that the length of the spanking, the sound of the spanks, my howls, and the lecture occurring during the spanking could actually easily be heard if anyone came to the front door. Do I really want the neighbors to know our secrets? [definitely not]

Lynn's back is almost better, but to protect any strain caused by having me over her lap, I was once again positioned kneeling on the couch, with my bottom positioned outward to meet the bath brush.

Lynn agreed with my suggestion to take a before and after photo, which if edited a little, I might post.

The spanking was the hardest I have ever received. [My spankings when I was a young boy always brought tears, but they were nowhere as strong or as many as the present. When you are a young boy, the baring of your bottom and the spanks overwhelm you easily] {Aside again: we have never spanked our children, and do not advocate spanking children - our youngest is now in his 20's}

The spanks just seemed to keep coming, and at times owwwwwsss escaped from my throat. [I know I need to be less stoic when spanked, and I will have to work on that.] The spanking alternated from cheek to cheek, the fire in my bottom blazed, and as my owwwwws increased the spanks lessened a little for three or four spanks, but then picked up strength again. {almost like these hurricanes going over land, but then reviving themself over water.}

One would think that Lynn standing to one side, and swinging the bath brush would be sufficient, but at one point she stopped, maybe after forty spanks. Lynn stated that she was not finished. I was not to move. She was taking a short rest. The fire really came out in my bottom during that rest, which only consumed maybe forty five seconds, and then the spanking resumed with vigor. This renewed assault really started my owwwws and ouchss. The spanking included a flurry for a finish, and then a few more even stronger wallops while being informed that if I had not lost my grumpiness with this spanking, then I would be spanked again that evening, even if it took another two separate spankings, of greater intensity, to accomplish the task.

My wife took two after photos, and then we retreated to the bedroom. Their we first cuddled, necked, and progressed to my kissing and nibbling on her breasts, before moving to her vagina. I thoroughly enjoy licking and sucking her entire pussy, but then she demanded time to suck and lick my prick. I eventually returned to her vagina, where with one finger inside and my mouth and tongue working feverishly, she had a terrific orgasm. When it subsided, she rolled over on her stomach, and I entered her from behind. She closed her legs, and with my legs straddling her, we fucked blissfully while I nibbled on her neck, until I had an enormous climax.

Four hours later, when going to bed, Lynn remarked on how red my bottom still was. When we awoke the next morning, their was still a significant blush over my entire bottom. Their still remains one red streak on the far side of my right bottom at the present writing, because with her standing on my left, this portion received the strongest strokes. [ physics- the bath brush travelled the farthest distance, achieving the greatest speed before impact.]

When we once again cuddled after making love, all grumpiness had truly disappeared, and has not in the slightest reappeared since then.

Significantly, the bath rush now remains on her dresser in our bedroom. We do not have guests visiting our bedroom, but the brush has obviously never been used in a bath, so it's purpose on her dresser does beg the question as to why it is there?


Lastly, I hope Will allows Janeen the pleasure of a thorough bath brushing in this position, especially since she has suggested the position to me. It is truly memorable. I am sitting typing this on Monday, and easily still feel the sore bottom.

bottoms up, or in this case bottoms out
Mike

Friday, July 28, 2017

still grumpy after all these years

I have been grumpy for the last couple of days. Maybe it is the weather, the October rain, working too much, or who knows what. I have been going to bed earlier, and my wife has stayed up later, so maybe it is the lack of sex, or even the lack of cuddling that I have been missing.

My wife gave me a quick spanking with the bath brush this morning, but a person was coming to our house shortly to do some work, so the spanking was short. It did not relieve the mood.

The probable outcome is a much more vigorous spanking tonight, which hopefully will end my bad mood.

Do spankings work for other people when in a funk. I wonder! Let me know what methods you use to get out of the blahs!!!!!!! ^~^


bottoms up
Mike

Three spankings in 14 hours

Fatigue and the resulting grouchiness has been the cause of my latest spankings. I had worked long hours on Thursday and Friday, but insisted on cooking on Saturday. I wanted to try my hand at making two batches of tomato sauce, which Lynn explained would be an all day event. I argued that it wouldn't. She offered to help, but was unhappy to be cooking the day before a short vacation. I countered that she should go out and let me do it. [I was expecting a stronger spanking, that day, for the previously described over-drinking on one night of vacation. no driving was involved, simply in the lakeside house. Maybe I was a little edgy. I was later to find out that she had mostly forgotten about this spanking. As Bonnie has mused, spankings delayed are spankings denied.]

The cooking went well, but did take a very long time, that is , most of the day. Because I started only in the afternoon, the kitchen was still a mess when my wife came home, and we had more to do with the sauce after dinner. Fatigue led to disagreement, my still denying that it took most of a day to cook this sauce, and an argument about my not cleaning the kitchen and counters properly after finishing the cooking. My wife's back was sore, she had spent most of the afternoon out wonderign around stores, and was tired.

You guessed the result. My wife stated I should accompany her upstairs.

Aside: Wintermute and other sites have suggested that plastic hairbrushes or other spanking plastic (lexan)implements create a strong surface sting, without the dulling effect of wood. In a previous discussion with my wife, I had mentioned that when we first started spankings, she had used a plastic hairbrush that stung like hell, and was very unpleasant. We had moved onto a wood hairbrush from then on. My wife at that time was spanking me to please me, because this was what I wanted. We had not bought into the DWC philosophy, which we are maybe 50% into at the moment. My wife had purchased a small plastic hairbrush today at my urgings.

Spanking number one:

The spanking was OTK, and started with the plastic hairbrush, but her heart was not in the spanking. She quickly switched to the bath brush, but stopped quickly because of my position placing a strain on her back. She briefly lectured about the cooking, the cleanup, the need for a maintenance spanking.

We have rarely used the cane. I suggested she shuld use it for my drinking, but that she should first practice a little. I tried holding a cushion at the height where my bottom would be, but her swats were very erratic. amd could land anywhere. It was decided that I lie on the bed on top of pillows to elevate my bottom. Six quick lightly flicked cane strokes later,and the spanking was over.

I thanked Lynn for the spanking, and the evening continued, without any enthusiasm. The spanking had really not solved the problem, it had mostly been going through the motions. I had asked for the plastic hairbrush, My wife had a sore back, I had asked for the cane, I was directing. This was not a real spanking.

Bedtime spanking:

We lay in bed, and both were still grumpy. [or was it just me?] After cuddling, and laying awake for a while, I asked my wife if she could please spank me. I explained that the previous spanking had not relieved the grumpiness, and stress that I had. She had me retrieve the bath brush, and twenty quick swift spanks followed. These I certainly felt, and I thanked her for the spanking. We then cuddled and went to sleep, one of the extremely rare occurences where a spanking had not been followed up by sex.


The next morning: (Janeen's method)
My wife's back was sore and stiff, and we slowly did everything needed to go away for three days in Seattle. My wife stated that I still seemed grumpy. She believed the spankings had not seemed to work, but stated her back was too sore to take me over her knee. I suggested that the spankings had maybe been too tame, even though I had been spanked twice in three hours the night before. I suggested that I could kneel on the couch, lean forward and stick my bottom out, and she could stand beside the couch and use the bath brush, where she would just have to swing her arm. This was a big mistake. The twenty plus spanks I received were the hardest my wife has ever given me. The spanks were slowly given, with a few seconds between each spank. Occasionally the brush was just rested against my bottom, then brought slowly backwards, until once again moving forward and hitting my bottom. The spanks were agony from the outset. Each one made me regret my foolish mood, and reminded me that my bottom had been tenderized the previous evening. The spanks were all contcentrated in the lower part of my bottom, due to my bent position.

My wife asked if I was getting in a better mood, which I readily and heartedly agreed with. This, however, did not stop the spanks from continuing.

When the spanks finally ended, with a flourish of 4 harder quick spanks, I truly felt that I had been punished.

We left shortly thereafter, and I sat on a very red bottom for the rest of the day. This spanking occured at about 11:00am, but that night before bed my bottom was still a very bright red. We made love passionately that night, all stress and grumpiness removed from my mind and my behaviour.

A shower the next morning brought the bright red color back to my bottom.

I have to thank (?)Janeen for stating that this is her favorite position. I now know the punishment capability when your bottom is so exposed. However, my wife also knows that if she really wants to make a impression, this position will be useful. Also, she has learned that my bottom can take a lot more punishment than she has previously applied, and that no ill effects have occurred. Thus, for better or worse, spankings may have become more meaningful in our life.

bottoms up
Mike

Wednesday, July 26, 2017

spanking contract - for punishment spankings

We originally tried creating a spanking contract about three years ago, but it was a little too overwhelming at the outset. At that time, we were not able to understand how the spankings would modify my behaviour, nor really assess the effect of spankings in solving specific situations. If I liked to be spanked, how could a spanking for misbehaviour be a deterrent, instead of a reward.

My first suggestion is that you read the information on the Spencer spanking plan, that can be found at the following website, mostly because it is free.

http://www.spankinglife.com/spanking-articles/2.htm

I will quote only a little from this document, and change where appropriate he for she, because the plan mostly revolves around the male spanking the female, while our situation is the exact opposite.

"The thing to do is this:

Establish causes that will produce the discipline.

Agree upon the matter thoroughly. Don't leave the thing to the whim of the moment. Let your husband know what he will be spanked for, so he can watch his step and strive to avoid the discipline if he can. This is only fair."


However, the best contract for a DWC relationship can be ordered from the DWC website [a link is in the right hand column of this blog] by ordering the lifestyle kit for $20. I recommend it to everyone. If you are in the male spanks female situation, you could still purchase it but always reverse the roles. The concept is identical. Purchasing from them helps them to maintain the site, which I truly appreciate.


The main idea of the contract is to use punishment spankings for one specific event until it has been satisfactorily corrected over a period of time. The man and woman each list three items they want to improve for the relationship to flourish. A weighting scheme is used to determine which one of the six ideas is to be concentrated on. The scheme makes sense, but you will have to buy the lifestyle kit for the explanation. I feel it would be wrong to give this information out, and if I ever met Aunt Kay, she would deservedly want to spank me for this behaviour.

The goal is to be successful, thus it is not necessarily the most important of the six that is first addressed.

What the point system used has chosen for us will be very easy, but needed addressing.
We have been traveling extensively, but when at home, we would stay at home almost every evening, not getting out and enjoying the wonderful city of Vancouver. Basically, I was the person saying no, and just sitting bored in front of the television many nights.

I must initiate an evening out, once a week, every week for a month. If at the end of the week we have not gone out, then I will receive a punishment spanking immediately.

My goal, honestly, is to avoid any punishment spanking. Punishment spankings are much more severe. I would much rather look forward to a play spanking. I immediately suggested a movie, and we went on Thursday night. [ "Where the Truth Lies'. We loved the movie, including the sexual content in the movie.] We both had fun. I just have to get off my buns, or they will be roasted at the end of the week.

The maintainence spankings I receive, are definitely strong, and these will still be given probably bi-weekly. Warning spankings, and when necessary stress relief spankings will still be given, as will both types of on the spot spankings. Thus, avoiding punishment spankings shows my committment to making our relationship and love more endearing everyday of our life.

If our DWC relationship is to keep working, I must be striving to eliminate behaviour that needs a spanking. Going out once a week will obviously be increased to twice a week after a month, but if this works correctly, another item will be determined as more important next month.

Plus, by listing the six most important ideas to work on, I have a head start on curbing these other behaviours before the next month, thus making it easier to succeed when the time comes to address them..


I include the Spencer contract for you to see, but the Dwc contract has a bettter method of describing the behaviour, monitoring the behaviour, and as stated before, deciding the behaviour to be worked on.

Date ______________________ 20___

I, . ____________________________ husband of _________________________.

do hereby acknowledge that I have read the Spencer Spanking Plan and approve of the doctrines it advocates. From this date on it is my wish to have my conduct regulated by the enforcement of these doctrines. I give to my wife, therefore, the full right and permission to spank me whenever she feels such discipline would prove helpful and be in accordance with the spirit of the Spencer Plan. This Agreement has been entered into willingly--and for no other purpose than to improve my disposition and secure the general benefit that always comes from the enforcement of intelligent discipline. I understand that I will be spanked without fail if I break my promise to refrain from:

(List the situation which has been agreed upon for immediate atttention.)

I promise to cooperate with my wife faithfully. I will get ready for the punishment promptly when asked to do so and I will bear her absolutely no ill-will for so disciplining me.

I promise further to ASK for spankings when I feel I need them. I realize that Request Punishment plays a highly important part in the Spencer Plan, and I will report and ask for the discipline when I feel need or deserve it.

(Signed)

X _________________________________ (husband)


X _________________________________ (wife)


Do you have a discipline contract? Would you like to have one?

PS: We wlll be out of town for three days, going to the Buffalo Bills game, then staying in Buffalo for two nights, doing some shopping, and maybe catching a play at the Shaw Festival. No new posts until at least Wednesday, and my buns are safe for another week.

until next time

 


bottoms up
Mike