Tuesday, June 12, 2018

Not quite what I had in mind

Time for me to publicize another EXCELLENT F/M spanking blog!I remind everyone that my blog does not condone or ever discuss the spanking of children. My blog is for consensual spanking only between adults.
It will be quite possible that I will highlight another blog, and it, obviously, might not follow my rules! Please send me a short reference link to a specific posting on another blog I have suggested, if it deals with spanking children. If so, I would check it out, and then remove the blog from my links.

It is a free blogger world, so you can find every type of blog you desire. I choose to only publicize ones that avoid BDSM, and the spanking of children.Many of you know of Recidavist's blog. It is very easy to publicize your blog! If you have a blog, simply start leaving comments on similar blogs to yours, and readers that are interested by your comment will click on your blogger name for more details, and will then see more about you, and any blogs that you have. Voila, Mesdames et Messieurs. Instant exposure.What I like about Recidavist is that his initial desire with spanking was as the spanker, spanking his partner. "Not quite what I had in mind" relates how he is in a spanking relationship, but on the other side of the hairbrsuh than originally hoped. Like I have learned, you can learn to appreicate being spanked, and admitting you were wrong, insteaad of steadfastly expressing that you are always right.His blog is worth visiting.   However,this post is from may 17, 2009 and the blog is long gone.Click RECIDAVIST to see his latest entry.

bottoms up
Mike

Tuesday, June 05, 2018

What implement do you prefer?

Whip?Hairbrush?
In looking further at the The Alice Kerr-Sutherland Association yahoo group, they have a number of polls that appear somewhat different, and interesting.Many readers enjoy voting in a poll, so I thought I should start doing more polls again.
Obviously, everyone is imaginative, so if your favorite(whether to spank with or be spanked with) is not here, you could always add a comment about your personal favorite.






Spanking Implement

Which of the following instruments of correction is your personal preference:




Strap
Tawse
Paddle
Riding-crop
Ruler
Switch
Slipper
Palm of hand
Spatula (a kichen implement)
Cane
hairbrush
bath brush






bottoms up
Mike

Sunday, June 03, 2018

positions for the spankee from Hermione

Hermione has recently posted some excellent pictures about spanking positions. I have simply attached two drawings for your entertainment as well as the link.The easiest way to have you see these, if you have not already seen them, is to click on the following link

Hermione's positions for a spanking
(PS: she posted this is 2009)
On this one posting, Hermione has a link to her previous two postings, as this is part three of the postings.enjoy

bottoms up
Mike

Friday, June 01, 2018

thought for the day

Ever so sweetly, your fate is determined...
bottoms up
Mike

Thursday, May 31, 2018

in public

The inevitable reaction to misbehavior could be as follows:
notice the sales lady indicating where she should take himWOW!
 Drawings by Jay Em
bottoms up
Mike

Tuesday, May 29, 2018

A Question

How do you like your man!

Tiedor Fried
Bent over awaiting your hair brush?
Or wearing panties because you just enjoy the view?
Whatever you wish, may you be fortunate enough for it to happen.bottoms up
Mike

Wednesday, May 23, 2018

stress relief

Post from Aug 21, 2008
Yesterday, had us stressing over certain things in our life, and, in my opinion,Lynn was really stressing out, until I could not cause her to calm down. I, unfortunately, then responded badly from the stress, which really brought things to a head, or should I say bottom.

Lynn left the room, and returned with the BODY SHOP bath brush. It was bend over the couch, bare bottomed for about ten hard spanks. It solved the problem,a nd once again we were able to talk reasonably. The stress is not solved, but at least it is back under control, I think. Lynn keeps stressing however, and I may be needed to bare my bottom again today, solely to relieve her stress.

Later yesterday, we were much more relaxed, and thus became amorous in the afternoon. I suggested to Lynn, however, that she really should use the cane, if ever I blurted out badly. i suggested we could use it now, and she agreed. I know that this is somewhat (or a lot) of topping from the bottom, but we need to keep lessening the stress. Lynn did six strokes with the 'hollerin hollow' ,with me bending over and supporting myself with my hands on my thighs. When the six were done, I stated that those last two I really felt, and Lynn decided that we should re-visit the first four. Thus, four more strokes were given.

Lynn is learning to make the cane strokes felt, but many times shies away from making them strong. I thanked Lynn for the spanking, told her I loved her, we cuddled, caressed, and had fantastic sex that afternoon.

Spanking solved the problems for the day, and gave us great climaxes and affection.
I certainly don't understand spankings without sex as being the normal state of affairs for some couples. Spanking releases our latent inhibitions, is effective in diminshing problems, and ourselves to enjoy sexual activity to the fullest.

Without spanking, we probably would have been cold towards each other for days, as happened sometimes in the past, before we moved into both play and discipline spankings.

To each there own!!! Enjoy life...

bottoms up
Mike

spanking stars

Mooska's tribute to spanking stars
( originally posted on August 8, 2009 )

I thought I would do an easy post, as time is of limited availability at the moment.

Julia Jameson
Joanne Jameson
Jennifer BrooksBottoms up
Mike

Monday, May 21, 2018

comparison of brushes

The following was sent to me by G.S.

Hi Mike,

You wrote: "Lynn, this time chose the "Body Shop' bath brush, which is definitely more lethal than the normal bath brush from the Vermont Country Store. I must take a picture of both one day, to show you the difference."

I enjoy your blog spanked hubby very much, so I thought I might make a contribution in return. Here's a photo of the two excellent brushes in question. I don't believe that The Body Shop is stocking their brush anymore, at least not in the USA and not on their website. The lower brush is indeed a genuine Body Shop model; their logo is on the other side.


Keep up the great work!

All the best,
G S
Thanks G S. The Body Shop BathBrush you show is slightly different from ours, in that the writing does not exist, and it is slightly more round. I love the writing (tongue in cheek) of assert your independence.... this certainly happens when Lynn is using this brush. She does assert herself!!!!
bottoms up
Mike

Saturday, May 19, 2018

Continued help

Seems I am getting back to a more personal level, relating our spanking activities. Yesterday brought another significant spanking, that helped both of us.

Lynn was dressed up for our going out to dinner and a movie, wearing a skirt, and blouse, with leather shoes.

I was getting ready, when she brought the spanking chair into the bedroom. She had a smile on her face, and announced it was time for my spanking. I thought we were going out soon, but she felt other items needed attention first. This might be a first of her bringing the spanking chair into the bedroom. Normally, she either requests I retrieve it, or has me accompany her to it, while she carries a spanking implement. She announced that she even has shoes on to have the proper elevation when I am over her knee.

What followed was as usual, in that she sat on the chair, and I was bare bottomed over her knee. A strong dose of the Vermont country bath brush ensued, followed by a pause as the reason for the spanking was explained (a small lecture about we have to lessen our stress, and that this will help get us back on track), and then another significant amount of hard spanks followed. No pattern of spanks occurred. Sometimes, if a pattern emerges, the spankee could lessen their effect by anticipating the next spank and relaxing one cheek. Without a pattern, one has to surrender to simply accepting the spankings beneficial caresses.

I am getting much better at letting go, such that I no longer count spanks to hide form their effects, nor do I try to remain stoic.

Lynn has improved even mope than I have, because she delivers as many spanks as hard as she determines, not being swayed by my reactions. Knowing that I endured an survived the spanking session with Laurie and James, has lead to the revelation that she can pretty well spank as hard as she wants, as long as she wants, and I will survive, albeit with a very sore, bright red bottom.

When the spanking ended, I thanked Lynn for the spanking. I was then permitted to get dressed, and we went out for dinner and a movie. I certainly felt the soreness in my bottom, while we sat at dinner, and whenever I shifted around in the seat at the movie theatre.

The love making later that night was wonderful. For both of our benefit, the spankings may continue frequently until a totally happy, stress free and calm sea prevails.

bottoms up
Mike

Tuesday, May 15, 2018

as requested

Some women readers have expressed the wish to see men's reddened bottoms.Satisfying both groups at the same time is possible. (those wishing to see a woman spanking a man, and those wishing to see the effects)Unfortunately, some sites simply use photoshop to create a reddened bottom...


oh well,
bottoms up
Mike

Sunday, May 13, 2018

Black and White today

Not really any time to post at this time, so thought I would just post a few photos. bottoms upMike

Friday, May 11, 2018

swift solution, but didn't last

We have not had any spanking in our life recently, except for play spanks. Today, marked a return to more on the spot spankings whenever Lynn is annoyed.

We are still trying to arrange a vacation, but various complications kept evolving. Thus, no decision has been made, and we keep mulling over possibilities.

My overreacting, or as Lynn might say, picky and complaining type attitude, had her retrieve the body shop bath brush, and requesting I bend over at the waist, immediately in the bathroom.

Lynn then proceeded to significantly spank my bare bottom, simply concentrating on a small area of both cheeks. That thing hurts.

I don't verbalize my reactions, which is something I have to learn to do, but I looked in the mirror a few times and was amazed at my significant facial reactions of pain when a spank landed. I had always believed Iwas quite stoic, but this truly altered that opinion I had. Lynn must have done about twenty spanks, with excellent arm swing at my bottom, when she asked if i was learning, which I immediately agred with. This did not, however, mean that she had finished teaching the lesson.

She spanked away again, with easily as many spanks if not most certainly more, and I did NOT try to count. When she stopped, i thanked her. My bottom had a circular red area on both cheeks, about double the size or more of the round 'body shop bath brush' on each cheek.

My bottom stayed warm for most of the afternoon, and still showed red a few hours after the spanking.

We, unfortunatley had a melt down later that evening, and will have to discuss it later today. I am extremely stressed by events at the moment, as is Lynn. Maybe spankings will help solve the problems, or at least, put any problems in perspective.

It is absolutely amazing, but more importantly stupid, that we are retired, and our to do list is overwhelming....
The two photos show the position, but both implements look tame besides the body shop bath brush.
bottoms up
Mike

Wednesday, May 09, 2018

spankings don't always work

The concept is that you might be able to spank away your troubles, but that is really a fantasy. Spankings help solve small problems. They may reduce stress, if you are somewhat stressed. They won't relieve massive stress, nor depression. They might even mask deeper problems.

Suffice to say, I have been stressed for a significant amount of time (maybe a month or so). So has Lynn. (Lynn has been stressed off and on for the last couple of years) We do it to ourselves. Writing this is also stress relieving, to some extent, thus I will continue, at a later date.

Lynn spanked me a few days ago, for various reasons. She decided that I should choose the implements, but wanted one leather, one plastic, and one wooden. This resulted in the bath brush, the leather fingered strap, and the cane.

The spanking was very effective, but the stress remains for both of us...

Thus, we are going on a vacation, and I will take a few weeks break from this blog... We don't have a laptop, so I cannot post from wherever we will be.... La Jolla is one destination, however, i hear the water is very rough...

Hopefully, the beach will be full with people of all ages, but a few cuties in bikinis or less is always fun viewing. I may get older, but I am not dead quite yet...

A task for my readers...
search out other blogs, yahoo groups, google groups, that might write interesting things for evey one to read.
If you simply want pictures of men being spanked, then join www.femdommail.com/
or read about it at www.femdomspankingblog.com/ From this blog, you can see lots of pictures and short videos...

keep smiling

We will be soon..
Mike

Monday, May 07, 2018

reaching out to other couples..

I received this letter this week, and thought I would use it immediately. It is very similar to many couples, as they take tentative slow, but safe steps, into meeting other couples who share a similar DWC lifestyle. I have added a comment into the letter in RED.
************* Norman Wrote:
This is my personal email address. Given the nature of our lifestyles and the caution I see advised to others on your blog, I feel I can trust you to use it with the needed discretion. " MIKE states emphatically":This is FOOLISH. I DO NOT WANT TO KNOW your real name and email address. Please create another email address, and then send all email through it... for YOUR safety.

Norman continues:
We are both in our forties and have been married over 20 years. My wife is in a management position at a software company, and I am in the automotive industry. We are both reasonably fit with children still at home.

We have been experimenting with spanking for much of our married life, but only for the last 5 years or so been practicing a dwc lifestyle.

  • Weekly maintenance sessions occur each weekend. These are usually fairly firm reminders of what is expected in our relationship and household.
  • At least once a month disrespect, or accumulated negligence, turns one of these sessions into a harsher (and more memorable) disciplinary session.
  • More extreme disrespect is dealt with the day it happens, most often with a cane.

We are an extremely happy couple, passionately in love and both feeling blessed to be with the other. Thanks to this aspect of our life, it is difficult to even remember the last time we had any kind of major fight. .Our relationship is based around acceptance and mutual respect.

Our yearning to connect with others stems from a recent trip to NYC where we worked up the courage to visit "Paddles". This was the first time (other than once renting a "bed and dungeon" for a night) that we took our relationship outside of our home. We both found the opportunity to be open and speak with others about our dwc relationship to be extremely liberating and rewarding.

Thus we would welcome a venue to meet with others in our area. And as I stated earlier, the only groups we have been able to get leads on in our region are more bdsm focused.
The group you mentioned privately would definitely be of interest to us....can you define a bit more of their activities or mission statement?
You are welcome to use our story on your blog, but I would ask to view what you are posting prior to you posting it please.

You can call us Norman and Beth.
*****************
Norman and Beth: I did not send back the information before publishing. That would be a large amount of extra work. What I have done is removed or altered any information that would identify you, as your jobs have suddenly changed. No need to ever say to anyone what fields you both work in, until you are talking privately.

One recommendation that I make to everyone, is to comment on the blog about what you read, and also about spankings that you have recently been given. This benefits the blog, because as more people add the same type of spanking activities, more and more people can become comfortable with spanking.

If you create a fictitious blogger account, then you can give a little more detail about yourselves, and a email address attached to the blogger account (it is necessary) would then allow others to reach out to you. BE CAREFUL! What someone states in emails, and what is reality in their life, can be totally different.

Our Experience: Before meeting James and Laurie, we communicated by email for quite some time, and joined a group they were in... Thus, we got to know a lot more about them, prior to ever deciding to meet.

Thus Beth and Norman: I will forward this to our friends, and as they see entries from you on the blog, they may contact you to join this small select group.
BUT, there are groups everywhere, and reaching out, is always good. Traveling allows for more anonymity, but with small children, that is very difficult. Good luck to you both. If other couples want to try writing to me, I can see what I can do to help, but I am not that 'with it' in terms of groups.

thanks for writing, and I hope I will have helped a little. I hope Beth knows about your writing, prior to your writing. If she didn't, then I hope she gives you the hottest bottom roasting in a long time for having exposed your real email to someone you know nothing about! [even if the end result is positive]

bottoms up
Mike

Saturday, May 05, 2018

Time to experiment

I am certain many of you have visited many other blogs. Their format is a big improvement over previous years. (that is, the format of this blog).

If you look at My Dirty Little Secret you will see amazing things, besides interesting reading. Being able to add a play list of interesting music, and a photo shoot in effect of pictures of Bettie Page among other things makes it simply amazing.

Best I get off my duff, and start learning. Blogger promises that when you update to the new format, the old format will stil be retrievable, if necessary.

Thus, in the next while, I will try to devote time to changing the look of the blog... As I go along, feel free to add suggestions.

I hope I will not be spanking myself for attempting these changes.

The beautiful women are always more attractive to look at than males.

bottoms up
Mike