old postcards
I wish that I had purchased these type postcards when they were available, but they disappeared from stores many years ago... Somehow, a more progressive free love society, but hide away spanking...
The first one is really cute, and can tolerate a little discussion. Is spanking something that comes naturally for the spanker, or does the spanker learn better techniques and effectiveness over time?
To me, when I see a photo of a spanker holding the hairbrush high above their head about to deliver a spank, I feel the force of the spank about to come, and the power of the woman.
I believe that their are tricks to the trade, so to speak, and that a spanker can learn from others, much like any other facet in life.
The idea of raising the hand above the shoulder, then thundering it down, has the concept of using your power, and speed increases strength when contact occurs. After seeing Laurie hand spank me a short amount, Lynn has definitely changed her hand spankings to be far more effective. Exactly how, I am uncertain, but I can attest to a stronger spanking whenever the hand is used, even if only to start.
The only negative is that the postcards always talked about bad boys, and I prefer all mention on this blog to be of men. However, this was always the terminology in the past, and mostly referred to men misbehaving like children.Lynn has changed in that she abhorred that terminology when we first started marital spanking, but now occasionally uses it in a playful way at times.
Would you like to comment.
Can a spanker improve their effectiveness by reading spanking sites for ideas, watching spanking videos, and other places like watching another woman spank a man, or attending a spankfest like Shadowlane?
bottoms up
Mike
15 comments:
I believe a spanker can definitely learn new and different techniques. Whether these come from other spankers, videos, books and magazines, or watching live demonstrations we can always learn more about our subject. When a spanker is starting out they can learn how different ways of hand spanking or use of implements can affect their partner.
As spankees we can also learn from these methods. As somehere have mentioned sometimes we want or need to learn to let go andkick or holler or even cry. Different techniques work for different spankers and spankees. We should always keeplearning and perfecting our methods for effectivenss and enjoyment of our spanking desires.
Mike,
Let me begin by telling you that I enjoy reading your blog. I’m always happy when I learn about another woman who has taken control of her naughty husband.
As a woman who is an experienced spanker, one who has written extensively on the subject of F/M spanking, I can definitely attest to the fact that it’s possible for any woman to increase her effectiveness as a spanker by reading and watching. After all, effective spanking is not simply a matter of instinct. Disciplinary skills, like any other skills, can be learned and improved.
Just consider the mistake nearly every woman makes when she first starts to use corporal punishment to discipline her husband or boyfriend. In almost every case that I’m familiar with, the woman simply does not spank hard enough. She doesn’t know how much punishment the male backside can tolerate, and as a result, she tends to stop spanking as soon as her naughty mate begins to struggle a bit. Her spankings may delight men like you who, for whatever reason, are inclined to want to be spanked, but they do not inflict discipline and are not effective in changing behavior or attitudes. She needs to learn to spank harder and what better way to learn than by reading about more experienced spankers and/or watching them.
My husband and I have been married for a bit more than twenty years and he’s been subject to disciplinary spankings since our wedding day. I have my mother to thank for teaching me how to deal with him when he misbehaves and I learned early on from her the techniques that make my husband’s punishments painful and humiliating. My mother told me how hard to spank (Of course, I now know that it’s close to impossible to spank too hard.), what implements are effective, and what positions work best. I’ve been fortunate to know several other wives who discipline their husbands through the years and have learned from them just as they have learned from me.
There have been occasions when I’ve found it beneficial to spank my husband in the presence of other women. Twice I did so in order to demonstrate to a newcomer to the spanking scene the proper way to discipline a disobedient or disrespectful male. Both of these witnesses told me they were able to spank their own husbands more effectively after watching. Naturally, my husband was not pleased to be dealt with in front of another woman. I did not ask for his approval, however, nor would I have expected to receive it if I had asked. The presence of a witness added to his humiliation. I firmly believe that humiliation is an important ingredient in disciplinary spanking, so the opportunity to add this special kind of humiliation simply made his punishment more effective.
I enjoy writing fiction and for a while some years ago, I wrote short stories for a magazine called WHAP! and for the Strict Women website. I received more that a few letters from women who read those stories. They wrote to thank me, saying that they had learned from my descriptions of spanking and that they were now disciplining their husbands in a stricter and firmer manner. If fictitious stories of spanking can improve a
real world spankers effectiveness, it seems obvious to me that the kind of reading and watching that you describe can do even more.
I’m sorry if I’ve run on here, but I have been meaning to drop you a line to encourage you to keep up the good work with your blog. Tell Lynn if she wants to compare notes with an experienced disciplinarian, she can write to meat any time.
Now, behave yourself!
Paul Andante
Hello Mike
I believe that practice makes perfect.
I recall when starting out in the Discipline lifestyle many years ago, I was softer and a bit more hesitant to lay it on, but time, experience and practice has Me quite comfortable in administering a hard spanking.
I do not believe there is any other kind and do not spank lightly.If a man is to be placed over My lap for discipline, then that is exactly what he is going to get.Why bother is that is not it's purpose?
I do tend on rare occassions to view various spanking sites for new idea's of positioning, but find nothing sweeter than an OTK, bare bottom spanking.
We do benefit from watching and observing others,I for one, enjoy the verbal cues and listening to the lyrical scolding that preceeds a session.
"Warmest" regards,
Laurie
My wife spanks me a couple of times a week. I love being spanked. She spanks me with ariding crop, strap (our favorite, cat, ruler, hairbrush or paddle. Sometimes when she has warmed me up properly, I request that she spank me as hard as she can. I am amazed at how much I can take sometimes. After she finishes spanking me she will make me masturbate for her or use a big dildo on me.
Sara has insisted that i read your blog daily. I am always learning from both your statements as well as the comments from others. I notice that Sara seems to have picked up a few pointers from reading it.
I have been spanked in front of one of her female friends who is in the process of learning just how to administer a spanking. We socialize with this couple and Sara has sat in on a few of their spanking sessions to help this young wife with her technique.
I confess I wouldnt mind seeing how the other man reacts.
Just popped in to say hello, I've missed your friendly comments.
Bottoms out.. ;)
I can report that my wife learned about the diaper position by reading about it and seeing a picture of it on a website. I find it to be the most humiliating position to be in and she only uses it on "special" occasions, but I can definitely say that this is one lady who learned from the internet...just reminding me that my behavior is leading me to the position usually gets me to clean up my act VERY quickly!
anon: certainly wish that anons would learn to take a fictional name... very true.
Paul Andante: excellently written, but i am confused by the name Paul... I would like to re-post this as a separate entry, but may I ask how a male sounding name evolved... or did you mean Paula.
Laurie: otk bare bottom is my favorite submissive position, expressing warmth while discipline is administered. I must try my best to avoid being over your lap for a discipline spanking. The verbal part of the spanking is important in allowing the spankee to release themself from guilt or worry, knowing that the spanking has a reason, and is addressing a solution to the problem.
anon: chose a name, please
Hank: glad to know you are a frequent visitor. Just be careful that both you and the other man don't end up being spanked one after the other. Your own reaction might get in the way of watching.
Janeen: glad yo popped by, I will look at your site today...
anon: please chose a name.
bottoms up
Mike
Mike,
I didn't notice the error. Of course, my name is Paula.
Have a spanking great vacation.
Paula
Having read some of Paula's fiction, I can say if she is good a spanker as is her fiction, I would not wish a trip over her lap!
Adam,
A trip over my lap would be an experience you'd never forget. I guarantee it!
Paula
I think Paula's letter is too well written to be fiction; I am a cynic and certainly like to think that I can tell a fanasy from truth. I also think she's from this side of the pond, not yours Mike.
Have a good holiday!
John,
You are correct. I am from this "side of the pond." You're also correct that nothing in my letter is fictitious. In fact, most of the fiction I have written in the past is largely based on my own reaal life experiences.
Want to know more about me or my experiences? You can contact me directly at:
pandante1@gmail.com
Paula
Paula: thanks for letting us know, and we did have a fantastic vacation.
Adam: know one knows whether what is written is fact or fiction. Paula: I will make certain to avoid your lap.
John R: I agree that it is factual.
Paula: I imagine you may have received some email.I, normally, do not allow emails on this blog, but yours is worth the exception.
Thanks for writing. We might chat privately sometime.
bottoms up
Mike
My experience confirms what Paula said about women not spanking hard enough when they first start. The first time my girlfriend paddled me, she was afraid to hit too hard. In this case the mistake was soon corrected. I laughed and said I could barely feel it. This provoked her, and she started to bring the paddle down as hard as she could, alternating from cheek to cheek. I could not sit down without pain for the next few hours and I could still feel the after-effects the next day.
richard.
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