our dwc journey

A quick post to let you know the follow-up to my email to my wife. I made, which I thought to be a sarcastically humerous joke about something my wife did, and she did not see the humor. The result was my immediately being told to lower my jogging pants and underwear, and becasue we were in the bathroom where the bath brush is stored, a quick 8 hard strokes with the bath brush while I was bent over. These were given with strength, and I am lucky that it wasn't more, so soon after last night.

So sometimes the spanks are light, and sometimes without warning and without expectation I am bending over for a strong dose of the bath brush.

bottoms up
Red/ mike

Letter I sent to my wife

Dear ***:

thank you, lover, for the spanking, and the even more wonderful loving that we had last night.

I couldn't be a luckier person, that you love me so much, and are willing to spank me to satisfy my needs. Remember that hopefully some day they will satify your needs.

I am really sad that you would be afraid to ask me something, as you mentioned last night. It shows how dominating and unreasonable I have been for so many years. Whenever this fear springs up, if even for a second, and we are alone at home or on vacation, or out in the woods, or wherever you choose, then spank the hell out of me. I will love you for it, and it will make our life together even more fantastic.

Every spanking is appreciated, no matter how hard, and I am trying to use each one to better myself in your eyes.

One last point: If I am being successful, and you can't find any faults, then spank me significantly every second week if you like for all the years when I should have been showing my love towards you by this behaviour in our married life. If a fault does come up, then spank it away ASAP, so that I am aware, and can work on changing it.

And don't be afraid of me. By spanking me, I am giving you the power to be the decision maker. Please take this power. Example: you were uncertain if we could afford buying new cooking utensils, and afraid I might rant about it. I have tried not to rant at all anymore. Spank me for having dominated our spending so much that you are afraid to spend $30, but I have bought a collection of maybe 30 or 40 spanking magazines over many years that each cost 30 to 35 dollars. Spank me as soon as you have read this if you so like, or the next time you are afraid to spend money. The soup stirrer, the bath brush, or/and the cane make your point the quickest and most effectively.

I love you and will LOVE YOU FOREVER.
bottoms up
Red/Mike

spanking contract revisited, then spanked

We both agreed that for the last month and a half, the first contract had been fulfilled. It will stay in effect permanently in our life. The contract is to make lifelong changes, not slip back into unacceptable practices.

We have started a second contract that involves:
A)increasing our social life [must go out once a month for dinner or an event with new people, or have someone new over for dinner) I have always been reluctant, so this will change. Because it is a monthly endeavor, a second idea was added.
B) I must work out physically twice a week, of which one must be at a gym when we are in town for strength training. The more activity, the greater health, the better sex drive and sexual life, and a happier existence. This should be easy, because ski season is almost upon us. During my refereeing season(6 months), I am very active, but in the off-season I am less active.


Spanking:
Thanks to Janeen's suggestion, I proposed that I should be spanked to end the first contract. [Bonnie's poem had also been sent by me to my wife (giving Bonnie the credit), and she thought it was interesting.]

The mind twist that is needed:
IF I need to be spanked each week because the contract was not fulfilled, then the spanking does not effectively change behaviour.
The goal of a contract is to improve our relationship, without being spanked. If I succeed, I am rewarded by a spanking, but this is once in 6 weeks. Got it!


Spanking:
First the soup spoon was used on a bare bottom for a short warmup, and it really stings. [Ten swats]


Cornertime


Then out of the corner to lay over my wife's lap for a dose of the holy terror.


Romantic cuddling

kissing

nuzzling

mutual licking and sucking


But then a short strong visit by the bathbrush back over my wife's knees. She used the positioning shown on the dwc lifestlye handbook of trapping one of my legs with her leg, with me being balanced over only one leg, and held one hand of mine behind my back.

When we returned to making love, it was a wonderfully invigorating affair, with my wife orgasm being achieved by my tongue, and my orgasm within my wife while in the doggy position. Her beautiful bottom feels fantastic against my body.

There are definitely benefits for having a spanking contract.

I will not be posting for about ten days.

Until next time:
bottoms up
Mike

how spanking affects you sexually?

My recent ramblings have lead me to wonder the sexual effect of being spanked. This poll asks males how they react sexually when being informed that they are about to receive a spanking.

how does a spanking affect you sexually
if you are male, a full erection usually occurs	immediately when informed you are going to be spanked you become erect while standing in the corner when seeing your partner seated holding a spanking implement only when your partner begins to bare your bottom when you are told to bend over her lap while you are being spanked only after you have been spanked and are kissing romantically
	Current Results

This poll obviously begs for a followup question of how does a women giving a spanking to a male react sexually? Some thought will be needed in how to phrase the question, and list the responses. IT is easy to see a males reaction.

A second question:

Your woody

Do you lose your erection while being spanked? yes no Current Results

You could post a comment with your reply, as the sparklit quiz no longer works
bottoms up
Red /Mike

spanking sex talk

A very interesting development occurred while making love a few nights ago. No spanking had happened during the day, but that is not necessarily connected to making love, and having great sex. Sex immediately after a spanking, or later that evening is fantastic, but a spanking does not have to occur as a prelude to sex. Hopefully, you are in a similar situation.

During this slow leisurely entwining, we cuddled, kissed, embraced, and my wife slid down to suck, lick, fondle and stroke my cock. Before climaxing, I insisted on equal time, and proceeded to lick and kiss my way from her lips to her pussy. Slowly, and lovingly I licked, sucked and stroked her cunt, concentrating on her clit and eventually putting a finger inside her. She was very hot, but somehow felt after a number of minutes that she was not going to climax and that I should just come up and stick my cock in her and have some fun.

I opted to start talking a few words while licking her pussy. I briefly stated that she must enjoy(lick) the power (lick) of being able to (suck gently) order me to stand in the corner, between many licks and a little kissing and sucking of her clit. Sometimes(suck) even having me bare(lick) my bottom, with(multiple short kisses to the clit) my pants still half on, and my underwear just at my knees. Multiple gentle kisses, and some sucking, while fondling her breasts. She was now moaning softly, and definitely building to an orgasm. The power to put me over your knee whenever you want, and to spank (many quick licks along her entire vagina up to the clit, and a finger back inside working magic, followed by rapid flicking of he clit by the tip of my tongue) me as hard as she felt necessary, when my wife burst into orgasm moaning throatly and bouncing around the bed with my mouth staying with her sucking on her clit. Her orgasm was as fantastic for me, as it was for her. When she recovered a little, she then immediately started sucking and stroking my rampant cock, and licking the entire shaft from bottom to top, then stroking below my balls at the perineum, and I had a thrilling orgasm also, coming in her mouth,and her eagerly accepting my cum.

We now have a new feature of spanking sex talk which I can use to help take her to orgasm, just like her talking of spanking me brings me to orgasm without fail.

Your thoughts on the topic?

bottoms up
Mike

use of a safe word

I have joined the Ladies_Who_Enjoy_Spanking_Men@yahoogroups.com , am currently only reading posts, and one posting by Betty is worth repeating.

The posting:

"It has become something of a fad recently to not use safety words for
a variety of reasons, the bottom/sub doesn't want one, The Top/Domme
doesn't think they need one, or it is felt that they are not
appropriate in a disciplinary spanking.

No offense to anyone, but this is about the stupidest bleeding thing
I've ever heard. The reason for a safety word is just that, SAFETY.
No matter how good you are, or how long you've known your partner,
things can go wrong. Anything can happen from chest pains to a sudden
need to use the bathroom (I don't know what everyone else's tastes are
but I would rather stop the spanking than have a wet lap, thanks.)

Ladies, we spank our men because we LOVE them, and we should always
want them to be safe. Not using a safety word during play is the
equivalent of not using a car seat for your child. It is
unconscionable, and any Disciplinarian that does not insist on a
safety word does not deserve the wonderful gift of the trust placed in
her. "

A safety word means stop immediately. My wife and I have never needed to
use one. It appears that until this word is absolutely memorized, it should be repeated before each spanking, just for safety. The partner is in charge of the spanking, but the spanking is consenual, and there must be a way to have it stop if absolutely needed. The safe word allows the spankee to plead that the spanking be stopped, to promise the moon if the spanking will stop, to cry if needed (I have never been brought to tears except when young (age 7 to 12) but only the use of the safe word will stop the spanking before the spanker had wanted to stop. The safe word does not remove the concept that the spanker is monitoring the spankees condition, and ensuring that the spankee is safe. Their bottom may be on fire, but their physical health is fine, and their bottom will recover.

One other item worth considering is to never administer a disciplinary spanking while mad, angry, or upset at the person you are spanking. A more severe but carefully controlled punishment spanking should occur later when you are cool, calm, collected, and DETERMINED. Your partner will know that it is never a good sign when she says she needs some time to calm down before discussing and administering the punishment.
The poll no longer exists, but you might like to write your response.

safe word

Do you use a safe word when spanking your partner yes no Current Results

bottoms up

Red/ Mike

4 quick spanks

Anytime it is felt necessary, Lynn is willing to relieve minor frustration with a few spanks.
We were in the bathroom, and I had just finished a shower, and was drying off.[that is, totally naked] Thus, for some valid reason (however, I have already forgotten the reason) Lynn felt it was necessary to give a few reminder spanks. This time Lynn used the plastic hairbrush, which is mostly open with just individual bristles, such that the air rushes through it, and the only resistance to stopping it was my bottom. Partially bent over, Lynn delivered two strokes to each upper cheek, and the area turned bright red immediately. Lynn only connected with the top part of the hairbrush, thus all the force was contained to a very small area. She resisted the temptation to do more, because I had a doctor's appointment the next day, and she didn't want visible marks that would need explaining.

A spanking when needed (real a quick reminder, or just for play), or even when totally no reason exists, is a loving reminder of how much we care for each other.

bottoms up
Mike

Danielle and John: be careful what you email !!!

I have expressed openly to everyone that I have a fascination with spanking. IF not, I would not be writing this blog. Similarly, I believe each and everyone of you have both a fascination with spanking, and with possibly learning other ideas in the domestic spanking situation.

I requested from JohnB a little more information about a post of his, and that he could send it to me personally if he felt comfortable sending it. Well, JohnB was comfortable sending it to me, but Danielle (his partner) was not, and now JohnB is siting a little less comfortably.

Any personal information you send to me will be kept confidential, but if it involves your partner or others, make certain you have their permission before you send it.

The result of not asking Danielle is recorded below, with both her and JohnB's permission:

OBVIOUSLY, THESE ARE NOT PHOTOS OF DANIELLE AND JOHNB! [and I am reasonably certain that Johnb's entire bottom was much redder than this.

Hi Mike,

Danielle was annoyed about writing confidential information in a mail to you and the blog. A part of my punishment is to write to you how she dealt with doing this without letting her know.

I was told, I was going to be spanked for this later on that evening. So I waited with a heart full of fear. Would she use the bottom warmer this time. It's a solid oak paddle, 3/4 inch thick, home made, but based on the old reliable from Aunt Kay's blog.

Yes, it's reliable and a great help for an angry lady disciplining her husband.

When it was time, I had to go upstairs for some corner time with the pants down.

And there she was.... in her special outfit.

She started scolding: "How can you do this? You know this information is confidential. Our friends might be embarrassed. We owe it to Mike's discretion that this is not on the street".

JohnB:" Honey I didn't tell a lie. This was true. I even checked the information".

Danielle: "Doesn't matter whether this is true or not. They told us a confidential story. You know everyone can get this information from the internet. And you didn't tell me. Wanted to tell a nice story?"

JohnB:: "Honey, I didn't think".

Danielle: " What I think is, you should get a little reminder that this will not happen again. I won't allow it. Being this is an offence for the first time, this is a 5 on our scale of offences. This time I won't need the bottom warmer. But you know next time you will have a meeting with an old friend..."

And now to business: "Go for the mahogany paddle and drape yourself over my lap".

I did as asked and she added:" No matter which paddle, your bum will show the color of shame when I'm finished".

The spanking started, alternating between the cheeks and interrupted by a renewal of the scolding, all this till my cheeks were burning and red. A picture of my bum after she dealt with my indiscretion has been taken as a reminder for future behavior. Before posting this story, she wants to see what I've written for approval.

JohnB

Dear Mike,

Thanks for your immediate action on this case.

If you want to publish John's email, that's okay.

But ... I like to add a message for Lynn. I'm sure she is as confidential as you.

Danielle

The original messages and Danielle's specific message has been forwarded to Lynn.

bottoms up
Mike

taking the edge off grumpiness

Yesterday morning, Lynn stated just before I was to go out on errands, that I had been grumpy the night before, so we should have a little session with the food stirrer before I left.

I must say that I am out of practice of being spanked, so I tried bending over the kitchen counter immediately, with my jeans on. Lynn, however, stated that 'on the bare' would be much better.

I lowered my pants and underpants, and bent over again.

Lynn delivered about twelve hard strokes with the food stirrer, and they were effective. She informed me that I had everything to be happy about, and nothing to cause me to be grumpy.

Lynn asked while I was about to pull up my clothes if anything was stirring. This resulted in the aftercare actually having a soft kiss to each cheek to make it feel better, and a casual long kiss and then suck of my hardening prick. I was then informed to put it away, and save it for later.

Having only been spanked once by hand in the last three weeks, and then really none for three weeks before that, my bottom finds any spanks much more meaningful. I believe that a bottom can become hardened to spanks if delivered daily.


I can promise you that my bottom is in for a major re-tuning over the next few weeks.

until next time

bottoms up
Red / Mike

spanking implements

I thought I would ask a little feedback from you as to what implement you are normally spanked with. I will follow up this poll in a few days with the number of implements that are usually used in one spanking.




Aunt Kay recommends that normally a spanking should be given with three different implements

Thus, anyone experiencing one spanking session as shown in these three spankings would know that they have been properly and truly spanked.





Using different implements makes sense, in that, using one implement can possibly numb the spankee's bottom, and thus the effectiveness of the spanking is somewhat diminished.





Personally, Lynn's use of her favorite wooden bath brush is extremely effective. Any time she adds on an additional non-wooden implement, the intensity of the spanking is dramatically increased. This happens infrequently, but the soreness remains as a reminder for a significantly longer period.

The sparklit poll no longer works, but when I publish this, we might see the results until spanrklit disappeared

Main Spanking implemet
My partner normally does the major part of my spanking using	the bare hand a hairbrush a wooden paddle a wooden bath brush a leather strap a different leather implement a lexan implement a cane a combination of the above
	Current Results

bottoms up
Red/ Mike

top space

The following discussion on Ladies_Who_Spank_Men@yahoogroups.com I found to be interesting, so am re-posting for readers who are not a member of this group. being honest, I did not read all the commments posted on this topic.

Re: Last Spanking Posted by: "betty keathley" our_ms_betty@yahoo.com our_ms_betty
Wed Nov 8, 2006 9:08 am (PST) Yes, Mike, you are perfectly welcome to use my post.

"Top space" does not come up often in spanking really, but it does come up in relation to more dungeony activities quite a bit (just to warn you in case you discourage discussion of the heavier activities on your blog.) I think that is because most spankos and most people who practice other activities don't see spanking as part of the larger BDSM community. There is some debate about whether it is or not, DEBATE WHICH WE WILL NOT GET INTO HERE, IS THAT CLEAR EVERYONE? but because that mindset exists people tend to mistakenly believe that what applies to heavier play does not apply to spanking and vice versa.

And as a result while the leather folk spend a great deal of time discussing things like mental dynamics, the experience of Topspace and subspace, and the reasons for it, most general spankos have never heard of it, even those who have experienced it. It is good to remember though that both parties need the adjustment time to "come down" afterwards. Ms. Betty-----


My reaction (DWCMIKE):
Since I am the husband that is spanked, I have not really thought of what my wife is thinking while she is spanking me. The one-sided conversation(lecture) of why I am being spanked takes part of my attention, and the wooden bath brush( or another instrument) captures the rest of my attention. Thus, the concept of 'topspace' is intriguing.

What is my wife thinking of while she is spanking me, and does she sometimes go into a topspace zone?

I believe that she is monitoring my reactions, monitoring the level of the spanking, and concentrating on the spanking she is administering, but that does not necessarily take up the entire intellectual capacity that any person has. Especially if this is the same bottom being spanked, that has been spanked hundreds of times before.
However, sometimes after the spanking she is ravenous for immediate sexual interaction, whereas other times we cuddle and kiss gently before progressing further, and at other times sex is not in the cards until much later that day or even the next day.

What are your reactions if you are the spanker?
If you are the spankee, does your partner sometimes go into a 'zone' The best word I can think of is 'euphoric' to attempt to describe the zone for the spanker.


The original letter was as follows: (sent to Ms. Betty)
My wife was still seated and watching me trying to dress just after she finished spanking me three or four weeks ago. As I was pulling up my underwear and trying to gently get them over my swollen ass after the spanking, I'm usually too embarrassed to look at her when I'm spanked and still bawling in front of her, it's humiliating and I generally can't look at her but this time I did and her expressions were interesting. I think that her thoughts were somewhere else; she was just spanking her crying husband as hard and as fast and plenty long enough to make sure that I was very sorry for doing what I did that was getting me spanked with her awful wooden hairbrush. I'm almost sure that she was thinking about other things as she was spanking me. As I was doing what I could to get my underwear over my spanked ass, it was as if she was saying to herself," well I'm finished here, now what's next;" I'm still dancing some in front of her holding a burning spanked ass cheek in each hand and trying my best to pull up my underwear while still sobbing from the spanking. That spanking was almost mechanical and yet properly done. She had a spanked husband standing there in front of her.
I want to ask her about it but I'm not sure what to ask. She does not like criticisms or suggestions when it comes to spanking, she knows that she knows how to do it and by the amount of frantic dancing I was doing across her lap and the dance that I did in front of her just after and holding spanked ass cheeks proved it to me.

Ms. Betty responded as follows:
You know your wife quite well and have been spanked by her often enough to know if she is giving you her full attention. I found your post interesting though because I do something similar. Often right after I've finished a spanking I seem "not quite there". I often have a very grim expression, usually a slight frown. Sometimes if he has not been spanked by me before the man I've just finished spanking thinks he's displeased me in some way. Though this is almost always far from the case.
The thing is despite outward appearances I am not ignoring the naughty boy I have just spanked. I am not thinking about my chore list or errands I must run or my waiting pile of homework. I'm not thinking about the session I just finished, either. To be honest, I'm not really thinking anything. Part of me is monitoring him very careful. I prefer whenever possible to have someone completely back to normal before they leave after a spanking. To that end, I'm watching him? Is he still crying? Are his eyes red? What's the expression on his face? Is he trembling? Are his eyes vacant or glassed over? I'm also listening to the way he's breathing, waiting for it to come back to normal, listening for any other little sounds he might be making. I will admit taking a little bit of pleasure in that gasp he makes when his underwear slids into place and he first feels the pressure of the fabric and elastic on his hot, sore skin. His eyes go wide and the reality of what just happened hits him all over again. It's a wonderful moment.

The thing is that is only taking a small part of my mind. I have no idea where the rest of me is. However, this is fairly common. I'm sure you and most of our other members are familiar with the concept of "subspace". Not as many people know that there is a complimenatry state "Topspace". This is caused by a release of chemicals in the brain just as subspace is, however the chemicals are slightly different, still when it goes right both parties feed into each other and they are off in their own little world. Often I tell people that when I am in the middle of a session they could hold the Rose Parade, the Super Bowl and the Second Coming in my living room less than 10 ft from me and I would not notice. This is because when it is going well I'm in that space, he is in his and all that exists during that time is the session. Just as it takes a little while after it's over for the person being spanked to come back to normal, it takes we who do the spanking some time to do the same.

However, as I said at the begining you know your wife best, and if you think her mind is really elsewhere you should talk to her about it. Don't challenge, don't complain, just say she looks worried about something.

LA CANE une autre fois

Well, I thought my limited French might catch your attention, exactly as the cane has captured Lynn's attention.

Yesterday, my weight was up immensely, which makes absolutely no sense whatsoever. This might mean that we have to take a different approach to losing weight, or simply I might have to stop eating.

I informed Lynn of my weight, and Lynn informed me to get the cane. No waiting around this time. Unfortunatley, the position of me bending, supporting my upper body with my hands on a chair, was not protective of my back. We tried my supporting my entire upper body on a counter, but there was no swing room for Lynn to use the cane.

Lynn, however, remembered that Aunt Kay had stated when we visited that another equally effective way is that I should lay on a bed, with my bottom propped up by pillows. No strain on the back, just on my bottom. [This proves that Lynn is thinking back to the visit to Aunt Kay, and benefitting from her experience.]

Now, the bad point. Lynn stated that maybe the spankings are not working effectively enough because of the sex we have most times immediately after the spanking. Thus, this morning, there would be the spanking, but no sex immediatley following, and as it ended up, we were up very late, and went to sleep with just a cuddle.

We went into the bedroom, Lynn carrying the cane, and I put two pillows on top of each other. I suggested to Lynn that she should try a few practice strokes on the pillows, because this was a different motion than when I was standing bent over at the waist.

Lynn did a few tentative strokes, then smacked the pillows with considerable force, and a loud thud. Lynn cheerfully stated that she was ready, and I slowly lowered my clothes, baring my bottom, and then placed myself on top of the pillows. Lynn was ready, but I was not looking forward to the experience.

Fortunately, Lynn did not cane my bottom as hard as she had the pillows, and gave a few strokes of a very timid nature. No reaction on my part made Lynn aware that she was being timid, such that she stated maybe we will do a few more after she had gotten to six. Another eight or so had her getting a feel for swing and distance, and the last couple received a reaction from me.

The strength of those last two strokes will probably be the starting weight for the next spanking.

When finished, Lynn stated I could get up, and I thanked her for spanking me. Lynn responded that I was welcome, and left the room to continue her day, leaving me to straighten the bed and put the cane away.

The remainder of the day went very pleasantly. What will happen today is probably a repeat of yesterday, because yesterday's immediate spanking was because my weight had gone up, but today is the routine of every second day. Maybe bread and water is the solution.

bottoms up
Red / Mike

more serious discipline

Yesterday, was the "every second day" in our regime of spankings to increase motivation to lose weight. Lynn is increasing the motivation with every spanking.

Since returning home from the business trip, we have moved up the scale from the small hairbrush, to 'old reliable', then to the bath brush, then the 'holy terror'.

Although I have lost some weight, it isn't moving much, and some keeps getting put back on, so increased motivation has been Lynn's goal.

Last night, Lynn in a very happy, cheerfully smiling mood, stated 'it's time for your spanking'! Lynn actually then proceeded to give me a choice, or either be spanked now, and then have dinner, or wait until after dinner. I chose now.

Lynn suggested that maybe she should use the cane! I responded that maybe could she re-read some on Aunt Kay's "Effective Caning Techniques", and practice a little before using the cane. Lynn initialially stated no, 'get a leather thing', but before I had retrieved a leather paddle she changed her mind, and stated get the manual and a cane for me to use.

I retrieved both, then setup a chair that I would bend over, and finally placed a pillow on the chair
where my bottom would be. Lynn picked up both the manual and the cane, aptly named by Aunt Kay as 'hollerin hollow'.

Lynn read a little, especially about positioning herself, and I helped adjust her directions. She then stated she would be fine, and would call me when she was ready. I went and stood in a corner in the next room. While there, I heard a number of solid thuds on the pillow, knowing fully that this practice would soon be reality on my bottom. This was not a very fun listening experience.

Lynn requested I return, and promptly had me standing bare at the waist and bent over the chair, using my hands to support myself. What followed were six smart strokes. They stung, but not as much as the holy terror or bathbrush, but then again, it was only six and Lynn is learning. The bathbrush and every other implement is used for many more spanks, obviously. These cane strokes were not as hard as what Aunt Kay had applied as just part of the spanking lesson she had given to me, in demonstrating how to use various spanking implements to Lynn.

I am certain that Lynn will learn how to use this cane even more effectively with practice. (my bottom being the practice ground.)

Lynn then informed me that she was going to take a bath, and then we would make love. She read the Cosmo Kama Sutra[77 mind blowing postions] [available at amazon.com for 12.48, i just checked] that I mentioned maybe a year ago, and we tried a new positon as part of our love making that was really tremendous. Page 79, the rock and roll. The warmth still in my bottom attested to the fact that the cane had done it's job.


If you do not own a cane, I recommend that you click the link to check out this cane. If you are worried that it might be opened by customs, Aunt Kay nicely describes it as an educational pointer, and the likelyhood of it being opened by customs is about nil.

We have purchased all three canes that we own from Aunt Kay's website.

the following description.

Hollerin' Hollow is a 28" long cane with a stiff character. It's impact is approximately twice that of other canes and it possesses an authority that announces "this is punishment, young man." The woman who wields Hollerin' Hollow will be well served in her efforts to build character in her husband. She will definitely receive the respect she demands. $28 plus shipping

I will post my EXTREMELY POSITIVE thoughts on Aunt Kay's Effective Caning Techniques in the next few days, and why you should purchase it.

The spankings are effective, but maybe sex immediately afterwards is fighting against there being totally effective.

bottoms up
Red / Mike

rain rain rain

Well, that sums up the weather, unless it gets a touch colder, in which case it will be snow, snow, snow...The spankings have been less on the home front, but at least three bend over now for a taste of the wooden spoon. Maybe we are being a little testy with each other, the post "Christmas holiday / New Year partying and accompanying stress".

Hopefully, things will be normal soon.

bottoms up
Mike/red

spanking drawings and photos with text

I thought it was time to show a few more drawings, and photos with text, on our favorite subject.





I can imagine that when the children are all grown, and left the house, a new and unique way of using a spare room might be to roast someone's bottom, and opposed to making it into a all-purpose room.






However, whenever the house is empty, with children having flown the coop, or else off at school and you both have some time off, then this picture with text is perfect for any problem.

This offers sage advice to all spankers.




Solving a problem immediately when you find out is the ideal!

Every action has a re-action!

For two separate offenses, many times it is best to give two separate spankings, maybe separated by only an hour in between. Thus, the spanker is rested, but the spankee will still feel the first spanking, while receiving the second. Double the trouble, double the fun!!!

Planning ahead is always important.


If a wife feels she needs to spank her husband but is alone, a phone call at work will certainly transfer the stress and upset feelings she has to the proper recipient. Why fret all day, when yuo can remove the stress and give it first verbally, and then physically when he gets home.

Doing this while he is at work transfers the stress from you to him, and when he arrives home you know exactly how you intend to discipline him.
So, a thoughtful reminder is :


anytime, anywhere

There were some other good drawings, but they have the man responding as if he is a boy, and the woman although clearly his own age, is talking like the mother. Personally, we feel no need to age play, I am a grown man who is spanked whenever needed, to help maintain a loving and harmonious lifestyle with my wife.

bottoms up
Mike/ Res

last spanking for 2006

Twas the night before New Year's Eve
and all through the house,
not a creature was stirring,
except for Lynn, her leather straps and paddles, and myself.

Lynn is really returning to the DWC fold with enthusiasm, as slowly, we evolve into being together without family again. It has been wonderful having close family visiting with us, and our son home for the holidays.

In private, Lynn has reminded me that once everyone has gone, she wil be free to spank me whenever it is needed. This could be quite often in the short term as some of my less admirable habits have returned. I am certain that a few spankings will have us completely on track. However, some spankings may occur simply because Lynn is in the mood to spank me. I am loving the affectionate pats she gives to my bottom almost daily while in private.



Oh the weather outside is frightful,
but inside activities are (mostly) delightful,
because no matter how hard the rain falls, (and blows and gusts and blows)
the spanks reign :> the spanks reign :> The SPANKS REIGN :> :> :>

This last spanking had me bare bottom as usual, with Lynn deciding I should lie on the bed, after retrieving the leather implements for her. Lynn is now able to spank with abandon with these instruments, knowing that they are not dangerous as a wooden bath brush might be. Also, with her standing, she has complete freedom of movement, as opposed to when I am laying over her lap.

I miss the intimacy of laying over her lap, but the spanking is usually more intense laying on the bed, and Lynn relishes using three different implements. (The leather strap, leather finger strap, and the leather paddle) Lynn is becoming very accomplished with these.

The ensuing make-up loving sex was tremendous, which eventually involved my orally bringing Lynn to climax, followed by her taking the on top position, grinding my sore bottom onto the bed, before doing her exquisite squats bringing me to a thunderous climax.

So, a Happy New Year to all, and may all your spankings be followed by wonderful sexual experiences.

And may you be in love forever...

bottoms up
Red / Mike

No nonsense spanking

Lynn came home yesterday, and I went to greet her as usual. This has become a habit, instead of simply calling out "Hi" and continuing whatever I was doing. This has been one of Lynn's ideas, that whoever comes home should be greeted and share an affectionate kiss.

It is a good idea, but if I forget, a hairbrush is always a alternative response to a lack of a proper greeting, instead of a kiss.

This time, I greeted Lynn and asked how she was, and her response was that she was fine. In addition, she added that when she has put her coat and parcels away, she was going to spank me. This was totally unexpected!

I asked if I could help with her coat, and also requested whatI had done wrong. Lynn responded she would tell me while spanking me!!!

We almost immediately went upstairs, where I was informed to get the spanking chair, and carry it so that the wheels did not make marks in the carpet. Lynn requested the bath brush, and when seated, informed me to lower my pants and underwear, and get over her lap.The spanking started immediately with enthusiasm. The spanks struck home often before the explanation was given. I was informed that Lynn had decided in the morning after I had gone to work that she was fed up of my taking some food from the kitchen and walking around the house eating it without a plate. Thus crumbs were forever dropping on the floor. The spanking picked up in intensity as Lynn vented some of her pent up frustrations.

I very readily promised to discontinue this practice immediately, and after a number of more spanks, Lynn finally stopped. I thanked Lynn for the spanking, and we kissed. This progressed into very passionate kissing, followed by wonderful sucking, licking, and exceptionally passionate sex.

The aftermath, one day later, is that we are more affectionate than ever, and I am careful what I eat, and where. Also, although the spanking occured around 6Pm, my bottom was still red when we went to bed.

May all your little problems, insignificant to the spanked husband or spanked wife, be solved in such a wonderful method of spank and change your ways, instead of constant battling or arguing.

bottoms up
Mike/Red

Why we allow ourselves to be spanked!

This is a interesting question to ask yourself. It comes from a comment from Fred that he posted a few days ago.

FRED wrote: One thing I know already: because of this spanking and the others I've been given, we get over things and move on. Even if finances are tight, etc., we feel like we're working at it together. And I have the wonderful, powerful, assertive woman back that I fell in love with 25 years ago!

DWcMike:
I agree, it solves problems, and allows the couple to move on.
Also, spanking is my fetish, but as my spankings become more commonplace, the immediate sexual arousal is not quite as fast, and disappears very quickly. Fortunately, Lynn revives my arousal after most spankings.

MAYBE WHILE I AM AWAY, OTHERS MIGHT LIKE TO WRITE A RESPONSE ALSO.

How hard are your spankings:

Fred wrote about a specific problem:
This has caused Ann long term feelings of anger. She asked me how bad the spanking should be. I told her and she responded saying that she would spank me until two conditions were met:
1. That she felt that she had completely vented her anger and frustration.
2. My bottom looks bad enough.

She said she simply will not stop until she thinks my bottom looks like she has punished it to the equivalent of the depth of her feelings on the matter.

https://beautiful-when-shes-angry.tumblr.com/

She said be prepared for her to rest, etc., and then to come back to do more. I'll let you know the outcome. Hopefully Fred will write well I am away, for everyone to read.

DWCMIKE: my spankings have become harder and longer, and Lynn is more readily willing to use spankng me as a problem solving method in our house. every spanking is stronger than when she first began, and I would say significantly stronger in the last few months. (or have I just been tenderized)

Have your spankings gotten harder and longer from when they began?
bottoms up
Red

a few drawings

I thought I would just attach a couple of drawings. I hope that the artists do not mind.The best way to deliver a warm paddling with the 'holy terror' might be as shown in this drawing by Danny M. Anyone knowing where further art of this nature cna be found should let us all know.



until then

bottoms up

Mike

quickie post

I hope that all the readers have had a Merry Christmas, and that things are looking bright for the New Year. If some do not celebrate Christmas, I hope that htey are enjoying the holiday season.

May one of the brightest things in the New Year be the rosy glow from your well spanked bottom.

I thought I would post two mooska captioned photos for the day.
The second is a wonderful thought. Ou r partner may not be as beautiflul as these tow women, but this is with special lighting, and make-up. Seeing these ladies in real life would be different.

The reality of our wonderfully beautiful and sexy partner is that they are real, and the spankings they give are REAL.



Have a great day.
bottoms up
Mike

Some interesting quotes

Randomly searching through blogs, I found a link to the following site.

click on the following link to get to the site:

Abel and Haron's Spanking Gifts

They have the above illustration, that can be purchased for tee shirts, caps, mugs, etc....

They also have a section of some biblical quotes worth repeating, that can also be printed on tee shirts, mugs, caps, etc..:

Proverbs 23:13 Withhold not correctionProverbs 23:14 The Rod and Reproof Give Wisdom
Proverbs 29:15 Thou shalt beat him with a rod

A fun couple of minutes imagining buying something with these or other sayings on them, and either wearing them, or keeping them as a in house thrill only.

My favorite: generate renewal energy, spank me now.

I couldn't resist:
an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth...
should you spank a DWC woman...
The devil made me do it.

bottoms up
Mike

Ready, set, go

Ready

Set

GO

bottoms up
Mike

Cartoons from the past

Well, if we think about it, most of us remember cartoons and drawings of an attractive woman being spanked. Very few existed on public display of a man being spanked! If anyone has some, please scan and send them to me. I will then share them with all my readers.

If I am trying to add little quips, then the second might be the marriage counselor. MAny people profess that this idea solves many marital problems.
As some readers might guess, I dedicate the next cartoon to Penny!
If the next were true, there would be an amazing line for trying to become a teacher.... shucks.. the good old days. These persons depicted would definitely be of universtiy or college age, so no spanking of children.
The last: just keeping order in the house.and remember, don't take spanking too seriously, it can always be for fun as often as possible, as these young women show.
bottoms up
Mike

mooska

one of the original caption writers from 2009 and before...bottoms up
Mike

corner time

UPDATE: MATT has sent me the link to the commentary of the spanking of an unwilling teenage girl. I will NOT post the link, as this would just play to the fantasy of any readers so interested. It really is an unnecessary inclusion by the author! However, spanking of children is an ongoing debate in some circles, and a few faith based groups try to blend it with religion. I find that a sad occurrence.

As everyone knows, if you click on a blogger name, it will bring up their profile, and would show the blogs that they write, and the blogs that they subscribe to. Thus, clcik away on the extreme ones, and you can read just about anything.

PS: Many people would find what is written here to be abhorrent! Such is life. ENJOY!!!

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Probably I deserve a time-out for not thoroughly checking out a blog before posting a link. However,knowing what most people reading this blog would think, corner time on its own without suitable chastisement would be insufficient.

Depending on the level of annoyance, this might be a significant hand warm-up, followed by the trusty hairbrush
and maybe a strap to make certain the idea was remembered.
bottoms up
Mike

Spanking Lynn

Well, time to explain a little more of our lifestyle.

The first item is that my spankings are never like the spankings described on the DWC website.The article in "tips and methods" is excellent, but we do NOT follow the summary that ends with "When you let him up, his eyes should be wet with tears, his knees should be quivering, and it should be obvious by looking at his bottom that he is displaying the marks left after a good session."

My bottom is well spanked, as are the backs of my upper legs sometimes, but I have never been in tears or knees quivering. We believe that this description is more for show, than reality. It is NOT necessary to spank to this extreme to be effective.

Lynn spanking me is extremely effective in relieving my stress, or in relieving her anger/disappointment with me, or simply reminding me of how I should behave.

I have been acting more dominate lately, and I am reasonably certain that Lynn will give me a spanking to remember who is in charge of spankings almost exclusively.However, the husband is not always wrong. Lynn has done a couple of things that were really wrong, and developed from her allowing stress to build in her life, and not reacting to the stress reasonably. The easiest way is to talk to me about the stress, and how we can solve it.

The result of the behaviour had Lynn agreeing to Seven real spanks on her bare bottom. I thoroughly enjoyed the view of Lynn's beautiful bare bottom, as all husbands do. The spanks were firm, and did not even elicit an ouch! Previous rare spankings have had Lynn ouching with only four spanks. The spanking was followed by fabulous hot sex. I am certainly not one to hold grudges.

Two days later, though, another case of the stress Lynn permits to build surfaced, and resulted in a spanking of eight spanks. [ You might see that I am adding one each time their is a need for another spanking] Her bottom displayed a very nice shade of pinkish red where my hand had spanked, and the sex afterwards was really memorable. My hand was sore after the spanking, so it does not have the callouses that my bottom has built up over time.

Have the spankings reduced the stress? Not really, but they have helped a little for the time being. While being spanked, and then making love, the worries of the world tend to diminish, and can be followed by a wonderful nights sleep.

The point of this posting is to let everyone know that I believe both partners can and should be spanked at some times. Both parties can benefit from a spanking. This is more in line with the Dorothy Spencer Plan than the DWC plan. However, we might state that the spanking ratio is maybe hundred to one Lynn spanking me, and I have only built up to eight hand spanks of Lynn.

Many women love being spanked, and the blogs you can read are amazing. I wholeheartedly recommend Hermione's to you, if you have yet to visit, as well as Tiggs and Bonnie's.

Spankings can be for fun, or for discipline, but they bring the couple closer together than ever. Old Fashioned Micheal might agree.

Now a fun video, if you watch to the end.... Wish they showed these type of commercials in north America!

Bottoms up
Mike